How to get paid to take care for my elderly mother.

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I live in Wisconsin and it is very difficult to be compensated for caring for my elderly mother. She is going to pay me a stipend and can then claim it as a medical expense on her taxes. I am retiring early to move in with her and am very concerned I'll lose my own house with only 50% of my income benefit. I think I should have her sell me her house for a 1.00, get my name on her deed, so that if she must go to a long term care facility, they will not be able to confiscate it. I was told that they can reverse the sale if its within 5 years of her being in a long term care facility.
Im in the same position and wondering as well in Florida.
I have been told that if you are a family member and live-in caregiver, you cannot be turned out after that person dies. There is a law to protect you from that. Check with an elder lawyer in your state. They should be able to answer your questions. Also, your local senior center should have someone who can help you with some of your questions or they can direct you to someone who can.
I hope you're right. Thank you, I didn't want to believe they could take everything. Maybe she should sell it to me for a dollar, or put my name on her life estate or quit claim it to me. I really need an elder care lawyer who is familiar with Wisconsin's very tough benefits for the caregiver, and who will still protect my mother's home for as long as she lives.
I HAVE CALLED IN-HOME SUPPORTIVE SERVICES AND THEY SAY THAT MY MOTHER GET TO MUCH EACH MONTH TO GET HELP. THEY SAID THAT SHE WOULD HAVE A CO-PAY, BUT HER BILLS EVERY MONTH TAKE UP ALMOST ALL OF THAT, AND SHE SMOKE EVEN THOUGH SHE KNOWS THAT SHE IS NOT SUPPOSE TO. I GIVE HER FIVE CIG. A DAY AND IF I DON'T SHE CALLS ME BAD NAMES, SHE EVEN WANTS A DRINK OF BRANDY OR RUM EVERY DAY AND IF I DON'T THERE GOES THE NAME CALLING AGAIN. SO WHAT AN I SUPPOSE TO DO, CAN ANYONE GIVE ME ANY IDEAS PLEASE HELP
Maybe you should talk to her doctor for a change in her meds. It sounds like she wants to calm down and maybe sleep a little better. Her medicare supplement should pay for that anyway. Good luck, would she enjoy some large-print books from the library?
Ihave been taking care of my 83 year old mother she has several health issues . The thing is i am 55 years old and need to have some income to help me i dont want to put the burden on my kids. She fell the other day and i hurt my back picking her upI dont mind taking care of her shes my mother but i was told i can get paid for taking care of her does anyone know how i go about it where do i start my dad is in a home for alzheimers thank you .
I do not think you can get paid for taking care of a parent.
You may get some deduction on taxes but that isn't any income
coming in.

If she has any assets and wants to sell them to pay you that is her decision.

I've never heard of getting paid for caregiving. If the parent is a veteran or blind they may qualify for some aid. (extra money) That goes to the person not the caregiver.

Sometimes you can get cheaper loans for grants to fix up your house to better assist an elderly or disabled person to live in it.
Whether you are buying the house or whatever you do, keep excellent records. We take care of my mother in law and we have an elder care attorney to protect her interests. My understanding is that the nursing home or VA or whatever can "look back" 5 years. If we wanted to buy the home, we could but we had to pay the appraised value. I know that you won't be put out of the home but I thought that was only for husband and wife It may vary from state to state, I don't know.
The bottom line friends, there is hardly anything out here nomatter what state you live in that will help with our eldery parent! My mom gets $2,108.00 a month and she qualifies for nothing!!! How can you work all your life and just because you are receiving your pension and ss you can help the seniors? Its true,nursing home will take everthing because they are so expensive! My mom gets too much for state help,but not enough to stay in a nice home,thats why she is with me. Oh did I mention, Maryland does have a caregiver grant, check on that in your state,you have to ask for it they dont volunteer the info. Now here is the real funny part about the grant( in Maryland), they give you @500.00 ANNUALY to help care for in home aide,etc!!! Someone let me know if your state pays more

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