Here we go, can't catch a break.

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I wrote a couple of months ago regarding telling my mom that I have to move. I take care of her every other weekend. As my schedule of visiting her won't change, I explained that my husband will be losing his job at the end of July. We are moving to a more avoidable part of NJ. It will take me an extra 1/2 to stay with her as she is in NY. She is starting the tears and the comments and I really don't want to deal with them or have a argument. I have been taking care of her for 13 years and she really won't give me a break. She doesn't like my husband, and that is because she refuses to get to know him. Any suggestions, tough love, anyone have this situation? All help appreciated.

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Your schedule of visiting her won't change? You are only an additional 1/2 hour away? What on earth is her problem?

You don't want to deal with her tears and comments? Tell her that. "Mom, this move is necessary and cannot be changed. I wish it hadn't been necessary but I've made my peace with it. It upsets me to have you make a fuss over something I can't change, so I'm going to leave for a while, to give you time to compose yourself." Leave the room if she disregards your request.
thanks, I like that advice.

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