Father's Poor Judgement
My dad has not been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. The docs just all it old age and wanting to remain in control but it is giving me high blood pressure. On most things and most of the time he is fine. Good conversations about the weather, the holdays, MD appointments... but then my 92 yr old dad gets things hooked in his mind and won't let go. for example he has gotten hooked on the fraudulent sweepstake scams and has lost thousands. He sends the bank these scam checks from the sweepstakes which they do not deposit. He claims the bank is cheating him and goes and closed out his acct and changes bank. I change it back (with his permission. I have POA) The bank is somewhat cooperative with me but say that until he is in a conservatorship they have to do what he requests. For years he had a blanket on his bedroom wall I was told there was a hole in the wall. He finally allowed us to clean up his room. Throw out boxes of sweepstake crap clean the carpet...and take down the blanket. He now feels that he repaired the hole in the wall and the apartment owner should give him the deed to the unit as a condo. (they were for sale a few years ago.) This type of behavior is constant. As well as being determined to correct old business deals gone bad for 30, 40, 50 years. He call a taxi and spend $$ on attorneys... The problem I have is all the rest of his behavior is normal. Yep he cataracts and wears hearing aids.
How do I deal with poor judgment and stubborn behavior? It's not alzheimers but it is getting me sick. He now wants me off his bank account. Has anyone else had this problem? He lives at home with my mom who is ill. A sister see them daily and helps with groceries, food... She is my mom's advocate and I am my dad's. Pleae advise!