Mother Sleeping More & More. Is this normal?

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My 88 year old mother with Alzheimers has been living with us for 6 weeks now after being in a nursing home for 2 years. I was not able to see her day to day activity level when she was there but in the 6 weeks here she is sleeping increasingly more and I am wondering if this is part of the normal progression. I had started to feel guilty letting her sleep so much but we are now seeing that she gets cranky and more symptomatic and even less independant in her thinking if she doesnt get all that sleep. I am wondering if this is normal to see and if I should just let nature take it's course.

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My almost 90 year old father was doing great really considering my mom passed away almost 2 years ago now. They were married for almost 70 years. My brother and I take turns going to see him every week,, my brother would do yard work and buy him lunch or take him to lunch. I would clean and cook so he had a weeks worth of food at least although he still drove and would cook his own meals. He would even cook dinner for the both of us from time to time. He took himself to the store and doctors offices, he was going out to the garage and building a chair and doing wood work. But about 2 months ago something happened. Keep in mind he doesn't want to leave his house so lives alone. Im upset by peoples judgment here on this thread about being lazy and not caring for their parents. That's upsetting, because I really do feel like im all alone in this. I have been cleaning up all the messes for a year and a half now. Since dad does not want to leave his house ,, we are trying an "in home" caregiver now. I work full time 50 miles away and have 3 kids im putting through college because my husband died in December, so judge away. We just introduced this new person last week (although he was hesitant to have someone come into the house) she is very sweet ,, and when I called my dad today he said "where my girl ?" ,, so he has already warmed up to her. I know I got off topic ,, but yes ,, he seems to be asleep most of the time when I call and I wake him up,, I worry about him constantly, but he would be sitting alone at my house if I took him home, and he hates air conditioning so would be miserable in my house like he is most times when he visits. Now hes in his own home,, my brother and I go as often as we can and he has someone to watch after him. Its a compromise that I hope we can maintain until its his time to leave this earth. So I try not to worry ,, I also have the neighbors phone number ,, and I just let him sleep because it makes him happy.
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My Mom is 88 years old and has been diagnosed with Vascular Dementia and she is also a type 2 diabetic. She takes a lot of meds for various things and she sleeps pretty much most of the day other then getting up and going to the table for her meals.or going to the bathroom. She no longer reads like she used to and rarely watched TV other then the Ball game and falls a sleep usually during that...I have to help her with most things like showering and cooking and making her bed. Giving her her insulin shots. She sits a lot with her eyes closed and has a swaying motion she does with her head. I am assuming this is caused by the Dementia. I was wondering myself if this is a normal thing for her to be sleeping as much as she does. And looking up more info on this I found this and see it is a pretty normal thing. She sleeps pretty good during the night but she does have a problem with her legs hurting her at night and that causes her to wake up lot during the night sometimes...I am fortunate that I don't have to put my mom into a nursing home since I have my oldest son living with me and he helps me with her a lot. I know there are people that just can't stay home and take care of someone or the money to hire someone to come in and do it when they have to work. It is much better if you can care for a loved one at home in there familiar surroundings if you can. I give big Kudo's to those that do and can. It's hard work and not wasy if you don't have any help.
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My mom has alzheimer & dementia, sleeps alot. She is 78 will be 79 in November. She is currently seeing a alzhemier specialist in Charlotte. We just started going to him. Her primary requested it. The very first visit was an oral exam. He had her to do a cat scan an eeg. We have the results in 2 weeks. I am her care provider, yes some days its extremely hard. My husband & I have put our plans on hold. Its important to try to take care of her. I made a promise years ago to her and myself, i will keep her as long as she know me.
We moved from NY to SC 2 years ago, we did take her, i do not regret it at all. When she no longer recognized me i will reevaluate the situation. From the time my husband and I got married we always said we wanted to travel. We both came from a lower mid level income family, and never had a chance to travel. But for now its all about my mom & what she needs.
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sagdec your mother is 91 years old and nearing the end of her journey on Earth.
You are doing a beautiful and loving job of caring for her in your home.
Let her sleep as much as she wants. of course wake her up to do what is necessary especially changing her position to avoid bedsores. Other than that offer small frequent sicks but don't try and force feed her. Mom is in the process of having her body slowly prepare for the end.ALZ is a horrible disease so be thankful Mom is quiet and content. Have you considered hospice? Dementia is not a diagnosis they like to admit for but if you invite them in to do an evaluation it won't cost anything and their skilled nurses will be able to advise you.
From what you have told us you are doing everything right.
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My mother is 90 ,i move her in with me and my husband in 2014 after she began having seizures again. I woulld go to SC once or twice a month to help care for her, until i/ became apparent that she was not being cared for properly. Mom was diagnosed with alzhiemer and now sleeps all the time. I am so concerned. When she's eating or talking on the phone she falls asleep. Most of thr time she seems to be on another planet, so to speak. I hate seeing her like this, but what more can I do? She is well cared for and loved.
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thanks for the info Annie and Linda. My 81 yr.old mom does alot of sleeping and she has dementia and is alwqys going to nap time. and she forgets alot,.but she does remember her childhood.I was worried about her sleeping so much.it is pretty much normal then. I love having her here with me tho. She's my rock.
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Try not to make your elderly loved one act "normally" provide the opportunities but do not push it, it is your loved ones decision how they want to spend their last years. As long as your LO not doing anything that will hurt others i.e. driving they will be happiest in their own world. This is a time of transition and everyone does it in their own way in their own time. I just spend Christmas with my family which was quite tiring but my daughter had set up a recliner in her office which is a lovely bright sunroom overlooking the garden and i happily and very comfortably spent my time there coming out to socialize when i wished and the family dropped and talked a few minutes or brought me drinks. I did come out for major meals and presents but it was just so peaceful and the grandkids are now old enough not to be so noisy anymore. So let your loved one sleep but keep them clean and change position often to prevent pressure sores.
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My mom is 94 and had hip surgery four months ago. She had sundowning in rehab and when she came home had hallucinations after not sleeping for two days. It was so scary and j am afraid it could happen again.
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Correction please, BPSD - Behavioural & psychological symptoms of dementia.
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It is normal for elderly people with Alzheimer's to sleep for long period of time. Does she get enough sleep at night? if not then she would be making up for the loss sleep during daytime. You have to ask her doctor, hoping the doctor knows her full medical history. Alzheimer's could make people sleepy especially after medication. I think putting her in a nursing home is not advisable, family looks after family member much better. If she suffers BPSD (Behaviour and psychological symptoms of dementia), then I think it is better to let her sleep. This is her need and preference that should be met and respected. She knows where to find her comfort and this should be recognized. If she is still independent and able to do something for herself, let her do it. Give her the choice/s to live her life, the most important is the quality of life that she deserves to enjoy in the moment. Comfort is a priority for her, acknowledge her unique individualism and provide her the quality of life that she needs and deserves. Family is important in her life now, and her self-empowerment should not be taken away.
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