We decided to move mom into assisted living, but it's isn't her choice
Mom is 91, very limited mobility with walker and has been living with Sis and I ( 6 months in each state) for over 10 years. She moved herself in gradually after Dad went into the nursing home because she hated being alone. Instead of creating her own new life, she co-opted ours and our friends. Our kids are now grown, my BIL passed in Dec, and Sis is not wanting to care for Mom any longer. Sis has her own health issues. Mom is spoiled, emotionally demanding and expects everyone else to take care of her and the major issues. The world has revolved around her and still does in her mind. I'm 54 and am expected to spend all my free time with Mom. She's bored and unhappy and we have decided that she'd do best in AL. We're scouting facilities now and Sis is flying out next week so we can tell her. I expect anger, nastiness like never seen, but then she may just lose it and go sullen. All she'll hear is that we don't want her. What we want is for her to have a life, and for us to be able to have a life as well. We're exhausted and she's still using the guilt trips and manipulation on us she's always used to get her way. We're resentful that once again, she's refused to be responsible for her life and we have to be the bad guys. Any advice you all can give would be so appreciated.