Coping with divorce and caregiving.
I have been married 16 years and have two wonderful children 14 and 9, I began caring for my schizophrenic, morbidly obese, parapalegic, chf 84 year old grandmother over a year ago. Her quality of life has increased tremendously, mine has ceased. I am 35 years old, I quit an excellent job to care for her. My family and I had many discussions about our situation before she moved in. Recently, my husband left me and quit his job. I now am unable to leave my home, have no insurance for myself or my children and my income has been decreased by 75%. My mother who is my grandmothers POA will not talk to me as she is to busy. I understand why she does not care for my grandmother as she is a mean person, but she is also sick (mentally)
I do not know what to do and am in need of advice. My grandmother does not qualify for assistance and I have to pay $17 to a caregiver if I leave my home. My mother is GMA POA and will not help me with anything. Can I put her in a nursing home as her medical POA? Also, my mother stated that she will not pay for a nursing home. I hate doing this as she was not cared for properly the last 3 she has been in but, I have two kids to think about. I would really appreciate advice advice as I am extremely overwhelmed right now.