Changes in skin color and temp
The elderly retired Colonel for whom I am primary caregiver is, I believe, showing signs that life is ending soon.
His hands, feet, nose, and ears feel cold, even in a very warm room (they keep two fireplaces and radient heat going all the time). His hands look strange - with light yellow fingers, and somewhat mottled palms. His feet are similar, but the toe area isn't as yellowish, just lighter than the rest of his feet. He's cold, and night before last I wrapped him in a flannel sheet I had tossed in the dryer for about 5 minutes, then topped that with a blanket. He was so weak, he only very softly said "I'm cold" when asked if he was okay (that's why I did the blanket thing). I have zero previous experience with this level of decline. I'm just wondering what to expect next. I'm spending this evening and all night with them, then Monday night, and 24 hours Thursday. They are supposed to be flying to their primary residence in California on the 8th. I find that to be very strange, and ill-advised, as both of their children live here. The two children have airline tickets and will be accompanying them on the flight. I, along with another caregiver, will be preparing them and their luggage for the trip.
Hmm. Guess I wonder if anyone else has seen the end of life come preceded by this sort of change in appearance and temperature. It's unsettling. But if any of the caregivers were to actually be there for his journey across The Great Divide, I hope it's me, just because I've earned the title "favorite", and he seems to rest better with my presence. I'm loud, laugh a lot, and make sure we have fun every day. Seems like an odd mix, but it works for them. How do I prepare for what I may have to witness? How do I know the time is getting close?