Caring for Elder Mom, because brothers said so!
I'm 57, single, own a home & dog. Mom is still at home, stated in her will she wants to stay til she dies. I was told by my brothers (married, working, get to have time to selves) that I was to move in with Mom and take care of her 24/7. I have been doing so for abt. 1 year. Hard, she has alzheimers, is 92, 50% somewhat "there." She owns her home and cabin at beach--both paid off. In her will she says she is to stay in her home. Says the cabin is her "insurance" for old age. Before Mom got really bad, she offered me $100 a day to care for her. My brother is paying me, out of Mom's money, $3000 a month, before taxes and whatever else is taken out. I am still paying mortgage on my home, my car, medical bills (just had a hospital visit for small stroke...how do you spell stress??) I am no getting medical insurance, paid vacation, any days off to speak of...I am totally taken for granted!! Maybe being paid better for all I do, would help alot (I could hire someone to help, since they won't!) I do all the cooking, cleaning, taking care of Mom, dr. visits, yardwork... I love my Mom, and am staying with her mostly because my brothers said they would put her in a nursing home--that would kill her!! What can I do before this kills me?? Ihave no life, because I have no time, even for myself. Thanks!