My father is slipping and no one sees it but me. It is too much to carry alone.
I don't know if you can read my whole question but my father is slipping and no one sees it but me. He is very emotionally abusive and has lost all of his and my money. I am penniless. I am medically disabled and after college graduation he let me go to France on his and my dime (there was a financial settlement over my mother's wrongful death.) He lost everything and then convinced me to let him sell my car while I was away. He is so manipulative and I never see it coming. When I was a kid he was the sweet little peacemaker in the family. Now he is causing all kinds of drama I think in part just to have the opportunity to fix it and feel useful. He recently had surgery for blocked arteries on his neck but no one but me thinks his behavior is out of line. I have considered moving into a homeless shelter just to get away from him but that scares me too. I cannot find enough work here where I live to move out even with section 8 housing which I am applying for. This is so painful. Does this sound like senility to you? He is 78. I could really use a few shoulders to cry on. I am always crying. Sometimes he is fine and sounds like he is normal and other times it is like living with a mean girls teenager. He is so abusive and my aunt doesn't even see it because he waits til she is out. He quotes her or misquotes her and makes it sound like she wants to throw me out of the house (this had me bawling one time when there was a foot of snow on the ground.) I have gone back to school to try to make myself more competitive with the marketplace for a decent job to be a school teacher so I will probably have to live here for another 1.5 to 2 years minimally. How do I make this work? I figure staying out of the house and spending time on campus would be best but what else can I do?