My Mom is Struggling to Take Care of My Dad
I have read several entries on this site and I'm hoping I have finally found an outlet that might help me! I am a 41 yr old whose parents are in their early 70's.They are fortunate enough to still live in their house.Dad has had many major health issues which has left him weak and a little feable (respiratory issues) and mom has assumed the responsibility of caregiver. After 45 yrs of marriage, dad has relied on mom for everything and I don't think that's going to change. Dad is needy and whiny beyond comprehension and mother loves/hates doting on him. She has gotten to the point that she is terrified of something happening to him, falling, hurting himself, or worse. Although he drives her carzy 24/7, she won't leave his side even for a minute. I have tried to get them out of the house and active, as well as get mom out of there for a bit, but both are unmotivated to move or be away from eachother. Mom is miserable, but won't help herself. She thinks she is the only person who can look after him. She really doesn't even sleep anymore as she needs to "keep an eye on him in case he gets out of bed". She is 70 herself and has her own health issues. Occassionally he falls and she has to help him up. Can't do that much longer. They both refuse outside help or a caretaker. Many more issues, but I'll stop rambling for now. What can I do to help mom from going crazy?? She's at her wits end with him and cried on the phone tonight. Killed me. I appreciate any comments or suggestions.