Can't live with my father anymore...We've lived together for 14 years.
We have lived together for 14 years now...that is after I moved out of the family home originally. Then my mother died. My husband and I just had gotten married. We have not been alone since. Now Father's mental capacity is declining. His judgements with regard to caring for himself and his environment, and safety has gone down hill. He really should have more assistance and supervision that we can give since we both work. We have talked to Father about a Residential Care Home. One day he is okay with it the next rebellious. He has told me that he regretted moving in with us. I have to say that it was the worse decision I ever made. I am at the end of my tolerance. It shouldnt be this way. I think we would be better off apart...perhaps have a better relationship all around. My marriage is suffering. We have to be apart. But Father is laying on the guilt...he now loves it here, doesnt want to leave. He says all his friends are here...What friends? He has chosen a isolated, stagnant life in a lawn chair in front of the tv. I had encouraged activities and clubs but he refused for 14 years. Friends...there are a few old neighbors who have since moved out of the neighborhood that come see him sometimes. I am sure where ever he is they will visit. We cant live together much longer...we will all go mad. I dont know what to do...who to tell him what must happen for all our best. I envision crying, pleading, hatred for me...there is guilt no matter...Help