87 yo mom considers any discussion concerning POA, wills, living arrangements "disrespectful."
Basically, I think it is a control issue. My mom is no day at the beach, so it is easier to let her have her way. My siblings have been always disconnected from the situation, and do not share the caregiving responsibilities. They live out of state and their contributions consists of weekly phone calls and one visit per year. But they definitely have opinions...she needs to do this or that. However, all these wonderful tasks are directed at me. They don't do any of the heavy lifting. I hate to admit it, I have gotten to the point that if I see any of their numbers on the caller id, I don't pick up. I know that is pretty pathetic and I am just venting. Thanks for the ear!