My 85-year-old father is mean.
We had hoped my Dad would "mellow" with age & illness but doing my research that's not usually the case. Becoming old, we have the same character we've always had but magnified so a moody, angry person will become moodier & angrier. Not pleasant. My uncle had Alzheimer's and he was still very pleasant - as he was all his life. 6 weeks today the silent treatment started! All because I put down a patch of gravel in an area that is soggy & not used. I was yelled out the house with looks that could kill (ask my husband) & told he'd do his own gardening or get someone else in to do it. So my parting response was "Okay, if you want me to do your garden again let me know, or I can give you some phone numbers of gardeners if you want" - silence. I was graveling over his borders to keep the weeds down, I've done the same to my garden & it's very low maintenance and lovely. I don't like heavy gardening any more, hoeing, raking, forking - my back hurts & my big toe is bad & I've got carpel tunnel. However he doesn't see the struggles of anyone else, never has. Very self centered. Anyway I was becoming totally fed up with weeding their garden constantly so maybe it's a blessing hahaha. They never go out in the garden to enjoy it so why bother. My brother just says to let it become totally overgrown again. It's mean really cos my children, husband & me have been sorting it out for over a year. His latest is he's not going to grandaughter's wedding on Sunday, he doesn't feel up to it. She's the first grandchild & first wedding. Ages ago I said to him we can get a wheelchair for the day to make it easier but he's so bloody pig headed he won't use one. Maybe it's because of me he's not going? childish or maybe he really doesn't feel up to it, just an hour at the synagogue is surely not too much & he was not going to the reception anyway. My brother will not be pleased to hear this latest snub. Rant over Arghhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!