5 Ways to Remember Dad on Father’s Day

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Father's Day can be an emotional holiday for those who have lost their dads. If it is a recent loss, the prevalent messages of Father's Day may feel like too much to bear. If more time has passed, the holiday may inspire you to do something special to honor the memory of the man who taught you so much. Regardless of how much time has passed, there are several ways you can remember Dad this Father's Day.

Ideas for Paying Tribute to Dad on Father's Day

  1. Buy a Card
    In the month of June, it's nearly impossible to escape the in-store displays of Father's Day cards. If the greeting card aisle makes you emotional, go ahead and buy a card that captures your feelings or describes your relationship with your father. Thoughtful, serious or funny, the card you choose can help put your emotions and thoughts into words. Tap into those memories and write a note inside. You can bring the card to your father's gravesite or keep it in a special place at home.
  2. Share His Stories
    Many fathers are known for the stories they tell, whether they are life lessons in disguise or colorful tales of a past era. On Father's Day, keep your dad’s stories alive for future generations by recording some of your favorites in a journal or retelling them to your own children. Or, at the dinner table, ask each family member to share their favorite Dad or Grandpa story before beginning the meal.
  3. Bring Flowers
    Taking flowers to your dad's gravesite on Father's Day is a nice way to pay tribute to him, and you can do so with a “masculine” touch. Choose flowers in the colors of Dad's favorite college or pro sports team, like red and white carnations with blue irises for a Chicago Cubs fan or bright yellow daises with greenery for the die-hard Green Bay Packers fan. Most Dignity Memorial providers have relationships with local florists to make ordering flowers easy.
  4. Visit Another Father
    Father's Day might feel lonely if you can't visit or call your own father. Consider visiting a senior in a nursing home or senior center who might not otherwise have any guests on Father's Day. If appropriate and permitted by the facility, younger children can also come along to brighten up the senior’s day. Instead of feeling alone with your memories on Father's Day, use the holiday as an opportunity to bring joy to another father.
  5. What Would Dad Do?
    Spend the day in tribute to your father by taking part in activities he would have enjoyed. Take the family to a ballgame, barbeque on Dad's grill in the backyard or watch a movie marathon of his favorite flicks. Whether it's John Wayne or James Bond, these activities can help you feel connected to dad, even when he's gone.

It's especially difficult to deal with grief during the holidays, and missing Dad on Father's Day is natural. However you decide to spend the day, experts agree that it's most important to listen to your heart and allow yourself to do as much (or as little) as you are able. Giving yourself permission to grieve for and honor Dad in whatever way you need is essential to coping with a parent’s death.

Molly Gligor leads the Houston area network of Dignity Memorial® funeral, cremation and cemetery providers. As a licensed funeral director for the past 20 years, she has assisted thousands of families during difficult times, helping them celebrate the significance of lives that have been lived and preserving memories with dignity and honor.

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My Dad died July 27, 2013, as the result of his second stroke. I still have my Mom (84 years old) and my daughter (22 years old). This year, Father's Day falls on my birthday, June 15th. About 30 years ago, Father's Day fell on my birthday. My dad, Joe, was so proud on this day - that my birthday was on his Father's Day. He didn't thump his chest like Tarzan, but we knew what he meant. I am an only child and I will turn 55 on Sunday. Dad would have been 89 on August 24th, and I miss him terribly. I am throwing myself 55th birthday party on Saturday, with friends and family. I hope that the joy of my party will carry over to Father's Day and I hope not to cry too much over the loss of my dad, Joe. PMoore