Q:What should I do when my elderly mom refuses to go to the doctor?
A: It happens often and is horribly frustrating. You can't physically get them in the car to go. I wish I had a magic answer, but I don't. Preparing ahead is wise.
If that doesn't work, lying helps sometimes, depending on their mentality. If it's dementia and they forget easily, getting them in the car for something "fun", and then dropping by the doc's office first, may work. It also may not. It's trial and error.