My parents [mid to late 90's] nor I ever had a Plan B in case I wasn't able to help them. My folks lived on their own and managed pretty well except for transportation. I was their wheels.
Well, one day I fell and broke my upper arm, very painful, and I wasn't able to drive for 6 months as it was the right arm and I couldn't use it to turn the key in the ignition nor could I shift gears. My folks were in a tizzy. Dad needed a haircut. Mom needed things at the store, etc. Take a taxi? In what universe?
One would think after what happened above that my parents would have developed a Plan B.... like maybe it would be a good time to move to senior living. Do something. Nope.
What a challenge for you both. I have to say, I don't think it was selfish of you at all. Because she needs you to be there for her, just as you need her. So taking good care of yourself is a gift to her AND her taking good care of herself is a gift to you. I know if my senior mom and I were dealing with that and it was me that was so ill, she would be beyond terrified. I'm blessed to have one child nearby that could help along with others at a distance. But it is good food for thought for us as well. Thank you for sharing this. Praying for y'all!
Yea, I've thought about this, also. I'm the caregiver. Hubby needs the routine. Right down to bathroom issues that happen about 2 or 3 times a week. He's never had anyone dress or give him his meds. His Daughter, who lives with us, (we're a blended family) sort of knows but is in denial. And she "freaks out" easily. We have a caregiver; and she comes in two mornings a week. If I got sick, don't know if she could come in quickly. Question for her next Wednesday. Hubby's DIL would be the best one as she's a head on her shoulders and lives locally.
Thank you for this eye opening article. Thank you for being honest and candid. I am caring from my mom in a completely different state then all my family. I need to ask if someone would be willing to come care for her or if she would need to go to a facility.
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My parents [mid to late 90's] nor I ever had a Plan B in case I wasn't able to help them. My folks lived on their own and managed pretty well except for transportation. I was their wheels.
Well, one day I fell and broke my upper arm, very painful, and I wasn't able to drive for 6 months as it was the right arm and I couldn't use it to turn the key in the ignition nor could I shift gears. My folks were in a tizzy. Dad needed a haircut. Mom needed things at the store, etc. Take a taxi? In what universe?
One would think after what happened above that my parents would have developed a Plan B.... like maybe it would be a good time to move to senior living. Do something. Nope.
Like I say, I've thought of this.