I want to live with my boyfriend can we keep medicade medicare he is disabeled both over 65

You should protect yourself. If you are legally married or partners, and your spouse/partner needs to go to a nursing home and can't afford it, you will have to pay for it. My parents had to get divorced on paper because my father was too selfish to do Medicaid planning, because he did not trust my mother.

Interesting post. I am not presently married nor do I have a partner, but will look into the ramifications of either scenario should I become that involved with a partner. Thank you for bringing up this important discussion.