Hi There,

I am new to this site and wondered if any of you have answers to a few questions I have.
My Mum was diagnosed with mixed dementia about three years ago. A combination of Alzheimers and Vascular Dementia. She did the Mini mental state exam and scored 14 out of 30. They put her as mild to moderate. As time has gone on she is now in the moderate stage but still living on her own and coping not too bad. Mum lives in England and I live in Canada. My Father passed away eight years ago. Mum & Dad were very close and Mum has never got over Dad passing away and has not been able to move on. I visit her three to four times a year and we speak every day, sometimes twice a day. I have organised her hot meals every day at lunch time and I shop on line for her every week. She is still at the moment able to make a simple dinner at night.
Mum for probably the last six months has told me every day that my deceased Father visits her and she sees him as a solid looking person. It does not frighten her she seems to be comforted by it. The only medication my Mum is on are the lowest dose of the patches that you stick on your arms, chest or back. She does not experience seeing anything else, only seeing my Dad. I read a article that said when someone starts to see there deceased loved one it is usually before they are going to pass away??? has anyone had this happen to their parent or can tell me why this is happening? any input would be gratefully appreciated.
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You are a brave and compassionate person to reveal these most personal thoughts and feelings. My husband has Alzheimer's and your comments really help me put this wretched disease into perspective. My prayers, respect and gratitude are directed to you every day.
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I wish my FIL could tell us what to do for him and how he feels. He & MIL hid symptoms from outsiders until she died. By then he could/would not admit he needed help. We all suffer while trying to figure out what he needs and how to deliver it. Thank you for your candor and sharing your most intimate life story with us.
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You're very brave for writing and i thank you. I wish you the best (if that's an appropriate thing to say? )
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Dear Rick Phelps....this was some great first hand insight!! Thank you so much for expressing your thoughts here...so much can be learned from reading this article!! Good luck to you...and keep posting.
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Thank you for sharing this, AgingCare, and to Rick Phelps for explaining what you're going through and how this disease makes you feel. In this journey with my Mother in law, I learned the most from the patients who could explain just how they were feeling. She wasn't one to do that.

And if anyone is in need of support for this journey, please join us at Memory People, on Facebook, an Alzheimer's/dementia support group. I am Rick's assistant and we work together to support our members and bring awareness to Alzheimer's and other diseases related to dementia.

We welcome anyone, whether you're a patient, caregiver, family member, or you've lost your loved one. You will find love, support, and good accurate information, at Memory People.
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