I agree that it may take trying different medications to see what will work. I haven't read where many dementia patients have much success with Xanax. I would discuss all the other options with the doctor.

Thank you for your perspective on this subject. When my dad became violent - throwing things, swinging at people, abusive language, it was so out of character. His caregivers were surprised at his sudden change. They doubled the Xanax which slowed him down, but he's not the sweet man he used be. And that's just how it is.