We do the best we can.. It makes me so darn happy to make my Mom happy...
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My husband has developed a cigar addiction as well. He bundles up and goes outside and smokes. Sometimes in 30+ degree weather. He knows he is not allowed to smoke in the house. Price tell me about price $40.00 a month to order the cheapest. NOW top it off he almost demanded an e-cig so he could smoke in the house. Rather than fight that battle I got him one. Cartridges are 2 for 6.00 They won't last him long. I don't know what to do . Can you advise ? I feel like running away and am just afraid I may do it.
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This may be way off but ... I used to smoke cigarettes myself ... Smelly and disgusting as that was I admit that it was tough to stop. I think a big part was having something to do with my idle hands when I stopped smoking ... You get so used to just having that thing sticking out of your face ... Ugh ... What helped me get through was lollypops ... Not only did it give me something to do with my hands but it also helped with the cravings for the cigarette ... I've been smoke and lollypop free since 1998 now and don't miss either one bit! Can't hurt ... might even help! Wish you the best!
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Marlis, makes one wonder why on earth do men smoke those things. One whiff would make me run in the other direction, even back when I was in my 20's. Of course, marketing advertisers shows a distinguish man smoking a cigar with pretty women around him. Ah, the power of advertising. Cough, wheeze, tears.

I have read on these forum here that to make a person give up something that might hurt them or hurt their Caregiver, you need to give them a substitution. How about a pipe? At least they smell a bit better in comparison.
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I can relate to this blog! Thank you for caring. As a caregiver myself, I want to give my Mom 'anything' that will bring that old light of laughter to her eyes and have her connect with something pleasurable. A good example is ice cream. Mom LOVES McDonald's ice cream cones, but she is diabetic so they have to be a rare treat. She used to get mad when we told her she couldn't have more ice cream and she could stay mad for a day or two about it. It could be a real problem when she asked for ice cream every day. This didn't last long in the whole scheme of things. Her dementia increased and her cognitive decline won out. She has difficulty communicating even simple needs and she doesn't ask for ice cream any more. We still give it to her occasionally, but she often doesn't register pleasure even in that. My opinion is that you should give him these small pleasures while you still can. Yes, it's a nasty, smelly habit, but in the big picture of quality of life, it's a small thing.
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