That has to be tough. My husband, although very well liked by others, stays aloof and avoids close relationships -- and I think just for that reason. He experienced so many losses from the time he was an infant and throughout his life of close family members.

But I always remember back to my college days while doing an internship that involved helping troubled teens. One of the girls mention to me that she used to avoid the interns because she knew they would leave. But this wise little girl said, she realize she would be missing opportunities. I try to focus on her optimism, but it's hard.

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Barb

Very sad commentary! We are all headed there. I will hit 70 in Sept and although I feel wonderful, and have no ailments, I am caring for my husband who is in his 9th year of Alzheimers. We are not doing what we planned to do in our "Golden Years" I just long to go to the Beach and hear the ocean waves. But I can't leave him alone and it stopped being a pleasure to go two years ago when I had to do all of the driving and and all of the work dragging stuff in and out of the condo and he couldn't remember how to put up an umbrella in the sand! That was my last vacation forever, I guess.

It is about the realities that we all must face.