I am my moms primary caregiver & want to take my mom to Italy...My Bro is poa & will not give me her passport. Travelling is a great way to provide quality care for those with late stage dementia. Our days are long with little activity done independently.
I have a free trip so money is not the issue. How can I convince my brother to let her go with us. She deserves to travel like anyone else. We take her on small trips & although I must take time, she does really well.
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My mother has #2 accidents, too. We have taken her to the beach with us, but I make sure that she and my husband and I share a bathroom (first floor). This way a messed-up bathroom can be cleaned by me, and my husband understands. Several relatives go with us (son, husband's brother). We get a beach-front house off-season so each couple ends up paying about $600 for a week. Even if you can't venture too far away, you can take turns caregiving while others walk on the beach. She enjoys sitting on the deck and eating most meals with us. If you don't live near a beach, try the mountains or a hotel (with kitchen) with a view. The important thing is to involve a few others, if possible. Believe me, a little freedom goes a long way and a change of venue will benefit you enormously
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My husband is in the stage of Alzheimers where he can make a mess with number 2. Sometimes he can leave the bathroom a huge mess after a bowel movement. Then I have to go in and clean up. I couldn't possible take him on a trip because I can't trust him in a bathroom by himself! What can I do to have a vacation? I hate to leave him because he still knows who I am and wants me there. He feels alone if I leave him for any time at all. He will "Look" for me and that is what will spell disaster if I leave him in respite care. He will wander off in search for me!
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