Marlis Powers, I did not see your name with the article, so I hope you catch that. I will repeat human feelings are just that, unless one has been a full time care giver, they jsut can not really understand.
C'est la vie with Charlie, I often wonder how a wife deals with this issue, rather than a child. I have always thought that a wife would just be able to deal with the aging, yet, why. It seems the older generation, such as my parents the wife was the wife, mother, grandmother no matter what. Well, I know this is not true, how many women from my parents generation just did what was expected, most, yes I mean MOST.
As many women just did the duty's as expected, how many were resentful? how many were happy when womens's liberation came to fruition/ and how many just did their best. I do not know what generation you were born in, yet, I will say pain and heartache still abound, stress, frustration and sadness are just human feelings,no matter what age or generation. I have many a story. I am 51, and have been my mother's only caregiver for going on 7 years. I live in a retirement area, and see so many issues, most of the caregivers are husbands or wives.
I have yet to read a rule saying that we are not to feel stress, and jsut want to get the basic things done without so many complications. My mother sleeps late, takes forever to get readdy, and calls my name a hundred times a day. I understand that if I take her it is hard, and if I leave her for jsut a short period of time I come home to a mess, the heat on ( we live in Arizona ), so you can guess as I run around the house how hot I get. What is the answer, well I wish I knew. If one more person say's just be patient, I will screem, yet, that scares our dog and cat. Can you, or have you looked into getting any help? I recently found out with my mom's issues inthis state, I can get 4 hours of respite a week. I will say it seems as though they jsut know how to push our buttons, don't they? I wish you well, and keep me informed. Be Well Jazmine1
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C’est La Vie with Charlie
I did not see your name with the article, so I hope you catch that.
I will repeat human feelings are just that, unless one has been a full time care giver, they jsut can not really understand.
Be Well, Julia Heaton/ Jazmine1
I often wonder how a wife deals with this issue, rather than a child. I have always thought that a wife would just be able to deal with the aging, yet, why. It seems the older generation, such as my parents the wife was the wife, mother, grandmother no matter what. Well, I know this is not true, how many women from my parents generation just did what was expected, most, yes I mean MOST.
As many women just did the duty's as expected, how many were resentful? how many were happy when womens's liberation came to fruition/ and how many just did their best. I do not know what generation you were born in, yet, I will say pain and heartache still abound, stress, frustration and sadness are just human feelings,no matter what age or generation. I have many a story. I am 51, and have been my mother's only caregiver for going on 7 years. I live in a retirement area, and see so many issues, most of the caregivers are husbands or wives.
I have yet to read a rule saying that we are not to feel stress, and jsut want to get the basic things done without so many complications. My mother sleeps late, takes forever to get readdy, and calls my name a hundred times a day. I understand that if I take her it is hard, and if I leave her for jsut a short period of time I come home to a mess, the heat on ( we live in Arizona ), so you can guess as I run around the house how hot I get.
What is the answer, well I wish I knew. If one more person say's just be patient, I will screem, yet, that scares our dog and cat.
Can you, or have you looked into getting any help? I recently found out with my mom's issues inthis state, I can get 4 hours of respite a week. I will say it seems as though they jsut know how to push our buttons, don't they?
I wish you well, and keep me informed.
Be Well Jazmine1