i knew this experiment in civility wouldnt pan out so back to bite my square ass jinx..

Captain, I had to google it to find out if it was named for you and your son's favorite smoke! I guess not.

sorry for your loss, my mom died on aug 1 also from vascular dementia. i recall as much turbulance from bipolar as from dementia. as a persons mood changes so does their perspective and subsequent wild claims / exaggerations. its pretty wild to ride alongside of. if you are part of a dementia support organization i hope you are aware of something called the capgras effect. theres a strong probability that near the end of life the care reciever will claim that the immediate caregiver is stealing from them, trying to kill them, and an imposter. the more the public understands these diseases the better imo because these outbursts of delusions cause everything from family strain to caregiver meltdown. i called the sheriffs office near the end of my mothers life and asked them to note that there was dementia in our household and if they recieved any wild calls dont necessarily send a swat team. lol .

It is so scary to be a long distance caregiver. I didn't rest until we had brought my mom 640 miles back home to an assisted living facility. It was too much to worry about her driving, shopping, cooking and all the rest. It was a blessing to get her to where she is now, and even as the dementia has progressed, I know she is being well cared for and it gives me peace of mind. My heart goes out to you Leanne with what you went through.