Thanks for the helpful tips. We are in the making a plan phase now with some older loved ones and these will definitely be put to use. This article has some more great downsizing tips too for those interested. https://www.rightathome.net/sarasota-county/blog/downsizing-tips-for-seniors
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Sorry, I keep posting prematurely...I wrote to Carol a couple of years ago and received a warm response. My mom was showing signs of needing to move from her home and yard for safety reasons. I have Parkinson's and knew I couldn't be the primary caregiver but still felt a lot of responsibility. I have a brother who has done a lot for my mom. I now know that he didn't understand Mom's situation fully. I am so proud of my mom. When my brother's wife and I asked my brother and mom to look at a senior community in my brother's city, they did so within a couple of weeks. My mom was overwhelmed at all such a consideration meant. She was so anxious my brother said he "had to go open a bottle of wine" for her. However, within a few days she had thought it through and was hinting at what furniture she could take with her. It's only been a month and we are moving her in a week...and she has been the leader of the pack. My brother came on board quickly as well. It's been hard on everyone and I"m sure there will be grieving and raw emotions yet to face, but I am so thankful! I know there are many terribly sad stories about 'moving mom.' I just wanted to offer some hope and tell one of the more positive stories. Due to my health concerns I feel like this has such a gift to me personally. I hope my family can continue to move well through this time.
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...once again...THANK YOU!
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THANK YOU!
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Something to factor in: If your mom/dad is moving into memory care, please be aware that many things turn up "missing" all the time only to be found weeks (months?) later in another residents room. Avoid bringing any valuable possessions (jewelry, etc) and understand that anything you bring is at risk of loss or damage. I am just speaking from experience. I wish you a peaceful transition.
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Two suggestions for downsizing. Create a photobook or scrapbook of valued possessions that need to go as a result of downsizing. Take good photographs and write a blurb about each item, using you loved one's memories about the items. Your loved one can take the scrapbook or photo book to the assisted living facility. They can se the book to share memories with others or reminisce by themselves. These books provide a way to tap into their long memory.
Many items can be sold on eBay or Craigslist with better results than estate sales, where good items go first and lots of bargaining on the last day. You can donate the results of the sales to a favorite charity. If you live in a large city or larger town, there are often sellers who specialize in craigslist and eBay sales. Do check their references if you decide to use this method of disposal. Consignment stores are also a way to dispose of items. Bt do understand their pricing and markdown policies before you turn over your items.
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Perfect timing. We're in the middle of choosing the best of two good choices for mom's assisted living and she's in the middle of going through *all* of her stuff. I need to be reminded periodically that it is compassion, first and foremost during stressful times.
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I love this article! I'm a senior's real estate specialist and an old social worker. I work with families facing this issue all of the time. May I reprint and credit this article to you? Thanks, Suze M., LMSW, SRES
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Once you have committed to the move hire an Estate Sale Company to relieve you of the hardship of liquidating the contents of the home, it can be a real relief.
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These are some good suggestions.
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