I agree that feeling guilty can have beneficial outcomes, that it can help shape future actions, and have a positive influence on relationships. Sometimes we should feel guilty for what we have done or left undone. But in the great majority of times guilt is mentioned on these forums (I can't think of an exception, but I'll concede there may be some) it is irrational and it is not something to be resolved and worked through -- it is something to be shoved to the background so that we can make more objective decisions and do what needs to be done. In a caregiving setting, rarely does feeling guilty contribute to a good outcome. Feeling guilty is almost universal among caregivers, and the bad news is we can't just change our behavior and have it go away.