I'd like my summation to say "She was as stand-up citizen of the universe. She took on the thankless and life-sucking task of caring for her mother because it had to be done and everyone else had an excuse. She put her life on hold for years because there was no decent alternative." With all due respect to the author of this blog, I think it's time to stop sugar coating the reality of caregiving. Not everyone does it out of love. Some of us caregivers are not even loving people, and caregiving for an unloved one is unlikely to change that.

The thing that most say is ... 'you'll be blessed', and the response that comes to mind, more often than not, isn't printable! Oh the halos we have and the sun shining from our .... eyes(!?) as parental care givers, is all well and good. Its the struggle and frustration and anger and hurt and pain that often overwhelms our (better) nature. If it all, its like having no life of one's own and the effort to take it back is enormous... and needs constant renewing... but in the end, its not the obit that i care about, as the fact that, will someone be there to care for me in the same way??!