I have had to readjust my thought processes so that each day I'm giving myself credit for the little things I'm able to do that move me toward the goals I set for myself. I have been making an effort to have some personal goals other than just the goal of getting through the day. Some days my personal goal is to just read 5 pages of a book I've been trying to finish or maybe watching a TV show on DVR without interruption. It's hard to see beyond caregiving at times but anything I can do to broaden my perspective each day is a personal goal.

The real trick is finding enough pieces of what one used to be good at, or derived peasure and positive feedback from doing,
once the abusive elder one has been caring for, is out of the house.

My elder is quite gifted at breaking the targeted person's personality, mind and spirit to bits; it is a huge challenge finding enough pieces to reassemble.

I vaguely remember liking doing many things;
but people rarely appreciated what I did, enough to buy them, and few who wanted them in their posession, despite verbals saying how much they liked what I made.
How can I find and reclaim anough pieces of myself to re-create a functional person?
How do I re-evaluate where I am now, since where I used to be, does not seem to be where I need to be now?

I am about to seek some heavyu-duty counseling, and have been considering EFT and EMDR.
Has anyone heard of other methods of counseling, that can help a person put themselves back together again, after being so utterly desroyed?