I am going to order this book right away. My mother suffers from Alzheimer's and I too live far away from my parents. My husband is active duty Air Force so it's not possible for me to live near them at this time or any time in the near future. I feel the guilt about not being able to be near them to assist with the care of my mom and just be there to give my dad a much needed break. I wrestle with my responsibilities as a daughter but also as a wife and mother. I love the author's comment "I learned how to mourn the loss of my mother while living a life that would make her proud". Thank you for those words Judy as it gives me a way to describe how I feel. I love my mother dearly but I just cannot be there for her all the time because I have a life that is in another place. I'm about to start a Master's in Counseling and think that I'd like to work with other families who are attempting to live with this disease and all that it entails. I believe it would make my mother very proud. Thank you for writing this book and I so look forward to reading it.