This article is resonating with me this year in a way I never foresaw happening.

In a funny way, caring for a very elderly parent is role reversal, and we have the opportunity to be the mother to our mother that she might not have been able to be for us. In that way, we have the unique opportunity to heal the child within her, which in turn, heals us.

You can count me in as not getting any hugs from my mom as well and I come to realize that she was never hugged by her ownn parents. It too late for hugging my mom for she passed in her mid 50's around the yr of 1999 due to heart attack. Not to mention she smoked, had depression, sucidal and dranked.

Of course, like the article talks about we try learn from our past and she did the best she could from the way she was brought up by her parents. With that said, my sister started the 'huggy-stuffy stuff.' I am glad that she did for I was pushing my own side away when he would reach out for me for a hug and I did not even notice what I was doing. Now, we all make a point to give hugs when we do visit each other. ; )
My mnl is the same way as well with the non-huggy and because I could never do any right for her son and never gave her reason to think bad of me, therefore, I cannot bring myself to hug her for she never made me feel like a daughter-n-law. I even have a hard time even calling her 'mom,' to this day. Sad I know but, it is what it is. I do try to show my love by doing things and being there for her and even more now with her diagnosed of AD.

I hope everyone here has a wonderful Mom's Day tomorrow whether you are a mom, grandmom or a care-giver taking care.
Happy Mom's Day to all.......

What a wonderful Mother's Day article! Just a few days ago, my sister's and I were discussing that our mother was not a huger and we were the same way when our kids were young. In remembering our mom's mother, we realized that she was the same way. We have since learned the importance of hugs, but I must admit that I still forget to hug sometimes. My grandchildren are great when it comes to hugging, so I get lots of hugs. My 91 year old Mother loves to hug us now and she loves hugs in return. Sometimes it takes time for us to learn!

I love this article. I know that we all as parents do the best we are capable of doing at the time. My mother used to never hug me when I was a child...I longed for those hugs even as a grown woman...but when she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and I became her caregiver, I learned that she had done everything she really knew to do for me...you see she had never received hugs either. When I began hugging her all the time...she would hug me and smile like a small girl. What a touching moment for me...I realized that people only usually do what they know...but I am so happy that in my generation, we have all seemed to want our children to receive all the things we did not. It is beautiful when you think about it!!!
I believe that with each generation becomes a better parents. I would like to share a link to my health blog that has my Mother's Day msg. Just go here