My mom has a health care provider that the medicaid provides for her due to her Alzheimer. The provider helps my mom daily for a few hours in the morning. If I enroll her in a day care center, will Medicare discontinue her provider services?
My grandpa's medicaid pays for his adult daycare. Depending on where you are located, check your loved one's insurance if they cover it and any other respite program.
Whenever I take my grandpa to "daycare". I always refer to it as "care center" when speaking to him. We don't like to use the word daycare because they may think it's infantile and for children. His daycare consists of clients of all ages, not only seniors. He is the oldest client in the facility (he's 91) with dementia. The 2nd oldest is another client an 88 year old lady also with dementia both of them are in great shape.
We have tried to get my MIL to attend ADC (at our local Assisted Living Facility) a couple times a week - even ONCE a week - for exercise class and lunch out - she flatly and angrily refuses to even consider it. She doesn't want to be around a 'bunch of strangers.' She refuses to allow a senior companion either - she doesn't want 'strangers' in the house for hours at a time.
We know that if she went she would have a good time. They offer a variety of things to do - people aren't just sitting around. I told her it is NOT a nursing home - these folks are active yet. I took a look around one day and she has been to the facility for her flu shot - she knows that it is a pretty place. I even went over during a Western Day festival last summer and the residents seemed to be having a really good time. Nice decorations, food, entertainment. It was not 'cheesy' and the residents were not treated like little kids. It was respectful.
My MIL's visiting nurse feels that my MIL is her own worst enemy. She has decided that she is miserable and no one is going to be allowed to make it better. I just hope that when I reach her age - IF I reach her age - that I will have better sense than to cut off my own nose to spite my face.
My husband and I may be forced to put her in Assisted Living for a week while we take some needed 'time off' - we are hoping her son will have her come visit - but we are not holding our breath on that one and have made other arrangements. Maybe if she spends a week in the facility she may be more inclined to make use of their facility for a half day a week and enjoy a change of pace from TV.
Would love to hear how others have managed to convince their parents to give this a try. It would be wonderful if she had something 'current and new' to discuss with us besides the same 50 year old stories :0) I think spending a bit of time at Day Care would be perfect. But, we don't feel we should force her to do something she doesn't want. She knows WHY she must be there for a week while we are gone. She isn't a bit happy about that either.
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Spending the Day at an Adult Day Center
We know that if she went she would have a good time. They offer a variety of things to do - people aren't just sitting around. I told her it is NOT a nursing home - these folks are active yet. I took a look around one day and she has been to the facility for her flu shot - she knows that it is a pretty place. I even went over during a Western Day festival last summer and the residents seemed to be having a really good time. Nice decorations, food, entertainment. It was not 'cheesy' and the residents were not treated like little kids. It was respectful.
My MIL's visiting nurse feels that my MIL is her own worst enemy. She has decided that she is miserable and no one is going to be allowed to make it better. I just hope that when I reach her age - IF I reach her age - that I will have better sense than to cut off my own nose to spite my face.
My husband and I may be forced to put her in Assisted Living for a week while we take some needed 'time off' - we are hoping her son will have her come visit - but we are not holding our breath on that one and have made other arrangements. Maybe if she spends a week in the facility she may be more inclined to make use of their facility for a half day a week and enjoy a change of pace from TV.
Would love to hear how others have managed to convince their parents to give this a try. It would be wonderful if she had something 'current and new' to discuss with us besides the same 50 year old stories :0) I think spending a bit of time at Day Care would be perfect. But, we don't feel we should force her to do something she doesn't want. She knows WHY she must be there for a week while we are gone. She isn't a bit happy about that either.