Getting the legal matters in order early after Mom's diagnosis worked out well. I had the POA for health care, and financial was shared between we three children. I got Mom's bills managed electronically (auto deposits & debits) and never had to worry about them much after that. By letting the bank do all the tracking, if my sibs ever questioned, I'd have the trail easily accessible. I think the onky thing they questioned was her pre-paid funeral expenses. My bronaccused me of "railroading" her into it. The lawyer asked where the money in that account had gone, I told him & he just nodded and moved on, not even asking to see the paperwork on it. VALIDATION!!