Most of the elderly wish for not a gift of materialistic value. They wish for a gift of service, i.e. window washing, sewing (for the sight impaired) and in general, tasks they can no longer perform themselves.

Holidays are critical in a senior’s life. Holidays conjure up all kinds of memories and can send someone into a downward spiral or, worse, into a deep depression if not handled with sensitivity.Memories can be an especially sensitive issue. They have the ability to be wonderfully moving if the senior is encouraged to share memories and experiences. However, if the senior is made to feel like his/her memories don’t matter, a feeling of isolation can take over. Try not to let this happen. The more you can involve your loved one in holiday celebrations, the better.

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When my mother-in-law moved out of her car and in with us, it was the best gift I could ever give my wife, or so we thought at the time. My MIL lived with us for a decade, and our last gift directly to her was a safe, supportive place to die by legal assisted suicide. Over those ten years, I learned that the best gifts can't be wrapped. Every thoughtful act is a gift. (If you don't believe it, try to demand thoughtfulness from your friends and watch what happens.) Doing something nice for someone they love is a gift to two people. Care about something your elder loved one cares about; that's a gift. When it comes right down to it, love itself is a wonderful gift. None of these gifts costs a penny.

Gift giving for my parent had become difficult, too. I've done the photo and memory book things many times. They do like them. Dad's mind is good,Mom doesn't remember anything 5 seconds, although the past can be clear. When her 90th birthday rolled around, the household was also in an uproar over their impending move into a retirement center. So we decided a party was not a good idea. Still we wanted to mark the day for her in a special way. We decided to give her a series of little surprises. At breakfast she found a mini cupcake beside her oatmeal, later a cookie bouquet appeared. She ooed and awed over the gorgeous decorated cookies but enjoyed the paper bugs and flowers we'd added to it just as much. We 2 daughters took her to a quiet place for lunch and gave her a couple of brightly wrapped bird things (she likes birds). She had great fun showing the waitresses and they brought her a birthday sundae as a surprise for all of us. My brothers sent flowers to arrive in the late afternoon. Dinner was out with her 2 sons. Same restaurant but she didn't remember being there earlier. (She did comment though that she didn't think she'd ever gone to dinner with just her sons. And I think she's right). And when they came back the whole family was at the house for her favorite Strawberry shortcake to end her day. she doens't remember it but she definitley had an enjoyable day and we had the joy of putting a smile on her face over and over that day.

For christmas we are mailing little things each week. Taking turns so a couple of packages will arrive every week. Some of the gifts my dad will enjoy too, but anything that gives her a distraction and brings a smile to her face is a gift for him too, as he is her primary caretaker.

My 97 year old mother sometimes uses a cell phone. I programmed the phone numbers of family members. Her phone has 1 digit calling capability so i listed the most important numbers for her to reach as numbers 1, 2, and 3 so she could remember them. She also has a Life Alert button that she wears on a necklace. Some people qualify for a discount through Dept. Of Aging depending on income level.

So glad I found this list - I'm having a terrible time deciding what to get my mother-in-law for Christmas. I barely see her as it is and over the last few months, her health has started to really become worse so gift ideas have been pretty limited for me. A good list here, but I see one item missing that I've had recommended to me. Are these "senior cell phones" I've seen advertised any good in terms of ease and quality? Since she lives alone and has been falling in and out of poor health, I figured that the cell phone might be a useful gift, but I'm afraid the technology might also be too daunting for her. I've done some research on an affordable model I found from a prepaid carrier, SVC/Tracfone, and I think its incrdibly easy to use, but she might not. Any ideas or recommendations?