It's important to help your mom to get involved in the communities' activities as soon as possible. Visit with the Activity Director. He or she can help mom to decide which activities she may enjoy. Also, check to see if the community offers a "buddy" system. This will help her to navigate her way through the routines and policies of her community - and make a new friend! If she enjoys Bible study, this would be another way to meet people. If she likes to knit, ask about a knitting club. If there isn't one, maybe you can start one. Does she like to paint or read? Join a painting class or book club. Most importantly, visit mom often, ask questions about her day, and remind her how important she is. Often times, when elderly parents must leave their homes, compromise and share others' time and space, and adapt to new schedules, they feel helpless and unwanted. Help her to regain her sense of belonging and empowerment.

I will pray for your mom. I think the major factor is her hearing problem. If she can still write she could have pen pal relationships. Or doing a journal or needlework anything she likes to do there is always someone else who can join her. If she can still exercise get her into the class. Activity will make her feel better and she will be part of a group.God Bless you both

My mom lives in an independent living facility. She had high hopes that this facility would be a happy, secure place to live but has found it not to be so. She tells me she feels isolated, lonely and sad. Her hearing problems are a factor but it's not the whole story. There is one "lady" at the assigned table where she eats who has taken a disliking to her. Not sure why. My mom is a likeable person. I think others are taking a que from this lady and is freezing mom out. I hate it for her and would like to do something to help. I tried to talk to the director but got no where. She seemed to think it's a matter for mom to work out and we should back off. Any thoughts would be appreciated.