If you have the paperwork, your first stop is a lawyer (one specializing in elder law). If you don't have the paperwork, see the Office on Aging in the state where she is now living. You have a right to see what is being done. Insist on this right until they pass you on to someone who has the authority to help you.

This information is harder to come by with the modern set of privacy safeguards. But you are a blood-relative and possibly an heir. Keep pushing until someone gives you the information you need. Otherwise, you are going to end up like "peggy38."

It's not helpful when you are excluded from knowing about a parent's care. There can be all kinds of reasons for it. Keep pushing. It could be something as simple as your sibling is too overwhelmed to know what or how to share.

Blessings and peace be upon you.

i believe that my brother granny knapped my mom. he sequester her from talking to any one. now i find out when she was amitted to n/h she had oozing bed sores with bkack pus. also broked ribs. nobody reported the condition she was in. now my brother moved her to tennessee and the poa papers he is showing people has the signature page as page 2. different font and poa has 5 pages and the the forged signiture is on page two,it should be pg. 6. the admistrator of n/h would not let my mom sign a hippa so i could see medical records.my brother sold her house for 105K. put it in durable trust for him and his wife. the wife is a CNA. as of today, the are 3 elder abuse records that are not public so nobody can see them. i am going for conservership at the end ofthe month. now they say she is incompatent. she had enough money for golden years. 105k for house, all insurance,her 100k cd , he emptyed her safe deposit box. brother kept her from calls and letters for 2 i/2 years. what can i do he took every thing and me and sister got naught.