My mom (87) also seems to be in the early stages of some type of dementia. (That's another story) but also has incontinence. She uses the bathroom several times a day when she remembers but doesn't "go" much. At night in the early morning hours is when she floods out. She wears special underpants and 2 large pads and that seems to catch it all. Also has pads, towels, etc. on her bed. Has anyone else had this? Why most of the urine is flooding out in the middle of the night. Around 3-5am. She also has an ostomy pouch for her bowel movements.

Mom is 84. She had a hysterectomy when she was 29 and she has pretty bad osteoarthritis. It's so frustrating when she has to go to the bathroom so often and never quite makes it. She already wears depends because she got tired of having to change her underwear. She takes Toviaz daily but it doesn't seem to help. She says it makes the situation better. Any suggestions?

My mom also has early stage of dementia urge incontinence to make it to the restroom to urine but the strange part is one after the other in less than 15 min. At one second she has to go then she sits abt 45min holding it because of her hip joint problems she's in lots of pain so I wonder if that's why she hesitates to go and to rather wait it out. I am taking her to see a specialty I believe she'll need a hip replacement which is a delicate surgery that's why she waited this long but can no longer take it.

My Dad is 82 and has bowel incontinence. He also had colitis and won't take his medication. We hired a nurse to do his laundry because he won't were depends and craps himself at least 5 times a day. It is realy gross and when we pick up his laundry the running stuff leaks out everywhere. He doesnt think he has a problem but we are all grossed out. I wish all he had was a bladder problem. That would be a little easier to handle. If anyone has any sujestions it would be appreciated.

My mom is the earliest stage of dementia and has urge incontinence. We have gone to a speciality doctor and my mother does not want any type of procedure to help her lessen the amount of times she goes to the bathroom. She is in no pain. She does not spoil herself but I do wonder if she really should have the procedure?