Excellent list of questions to discuss with the doctor! I am glad to see a choice of no treatment is a viable option for some patients. My husband is 87 and has just been diagnosed with malignant bladder cancer. The doctor's body language was negative as she went through his options. Chemo and radiation were not encouraged at all; the tumor is lodged in the wall of the bladder and is extremely large. As for having his bladder and other organs removed, my husband told me that he would not do that. His thinking is, at his age, something is going to kill him. With heart problems, it might be a heart attack. With the cancer, he will maintain his current quality of life until the cancer begins to affect it more than now. In the meantime, we have a couple of other minor surgeries scheduled for both of us. We are looking forward to having them completed. We plan to spend Thanksgiving with his middle daughter and family in another state. And, we are looking forward to our cruise the second week of December. As we both agreed, we still have a lot of living to do. He was released from the hospital today after a night of observation. We were both exhausted, of course; so, we took a nap. Then I cooked his choice of dinner and added a special touch or two, which pleased him. When he urinates, there is a small amount of blood at the beginning from the cystoscopy, then his urine is clear. He said we are all going to die from something, so why worry about what it will be. We will do our best to live each day as if it were our last and do things now that he might not be able to do later. At the end of the day, as we embraced, I said well, today has been a successful day...you are home; we now know what the problem was; I enjoyed cooking for you and adding special touches, and here we stand holding each other and feeling more alive and loved than ever. He responded, "Indeed!" Thank you for this article; it added one or two questions to my list I want to talk to the doctor about when we have the follow-up appointment. Most of the information will be to pass along to his daughters and their children for "family medical history."