i have medical POA for my mother and my sister has financial POA. Although the document states that I am to make the decisions on any placement in AL, memory care, or skilled nursing, my sister has made the decisions because she can refuse to pay for the care I choose for my mother. I have been caring for my mother full time since May 2019. I moved in with her. In August 2019 my mother went into AL, which I agreed to. In December 2019 my sister decided to move her to memory care. I disagreed but she was moved because that’s what my sister would pay for, with my mothers finances. Even though she’s in a facility I am there 7 days a week from noon to 9:00 PM. We have a paid private caregiver from 8:00 AM to noon. I take my mother to all her medical appointments and keep up with her medical and personal needs. Now my sister is taking me to court stating my mother is unsafe in my care. I had quit my job in May 2019 to care for my mother. We had an agreement that she would give me a certain amount each month and help with any major expenses that I incurred. My sister decided Feb. 1 she was not going to give me any more money. My mother is scared to death that Im not going to be there for her any more. She kept telling me to put this agreement in writing but I didn’t. Now I’m in a terrible financial bind. My savings are almost gone and I’m afraid I will not be able to care for her full time. This whole situation is awful! My mother really thought she had everything in order. Be careful how these POAs are worded. I thought I could trust my sister but she’s proven me wrong.
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If you have durable power of attorney (DPOA) for your parents, what can your parents do? If you have a financial DPOA, can the parents do any banking themselves? If medical DPOA, can they make their own doctor's appointments?
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My father is in the hospital and has had 10 heart attacks with the first 1 being a massive. He has been in the hospital now for 2 months. I am the only one taking care of him as I'm the 1 he lives with and the only 1 who is around to take care of him. But I don't have POA or guardianship nor custody what can I do to make medical decisions on his behalf?
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My 91 yo mother lives with me in Texas. Several years ago when Mom lived independently in New Jersey, she gave me durable POA. Is the POA still valid in Texas?
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Alabama has started making all POA's durable, just to avoid this very issue; however, it didn't start until 2012 and mil signed hers in 2006, so we're not sure what kind she signed but she has a dementia diagnosis, so not sure if that counts or not and if both financial and medical or just financial but seems as if POA is not wanting to get involved with the medical
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What can I do when my fathers durable power of attorney is uncooperative for the most part with me... his son, concerning knowledge of his finances, concerning any financial help that he does want to give me?
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HELP!! Our Mother has had several strokes and has continued to live in her home with our sister, who is also the power of attorney for our Mother. In August, our sister had brain surgery and she suffered some brain damage as a result. She has never done a good job with her finances, let alone our Mothers, however, now she is spending every dime on everything other than the house payment and the utilities. The house is in our Sister's name and when we mentioned one of us taking over, she ordered us off her property daring us to ever come back. DHR is now involved thanks to a Home Health Social Worker who reported the deplorable condition of the house (15 cats inside and 1 litter box that is never changed). Where do we start? How do we get our Mother out of there? She is not safe nor is she being taken care off. We thank you so much for any suggestions. Oh, almost forgot, we have never see the power of attorney, however, she must have something to have Social Security send Mothers check to both of them. We just need to be pointed in the right direction.
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THANK YOU!
very helpful and appreciated
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I have been helping my grandmother since 2012.But was diagnosed with early dementia around 2016.Which has progressed to resulting in me taking a 1yr. Leave from my job to take care of her. Because none of her kids was dedicating there time on what my grandmother needs were.I went out of town for a funeral for 2 days.And left my grandmother in the care of my brother. But not even 2hrs of me leaving.My Mom and Aunt came and got her and has falling been accusing me of neglect stating that I left her by herself for the 2nd time.And also using her money for my personal use. I have had D.P .O.A since June of this yr.That doesn't mean anything now that my mom has made A lot of false accusations which has resulted in my grandmother being hospitalized 2x's.And now Family services has taken my grandmother from my mom and placed her in a nursing facility which is hurting me to have to see my grandmother so depressed because she's not with me.My legal documents that I have
I just knew would keep my grandmother happy and safe with me.But have to wait to go to court to even see if I can get her back.It hurts me so bad that my mom is doing such awful, heartless, hurting things that is mentally and physically destroying myself and my grandmother deeply.I just don't understand my grandmother wants to be with me and can tell u if asked. But my mom is going thru the courts to get quardian over my grandmother but in the process my grandmother has been taking by the state.I need to know what rights do I have?
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Teenybk see if you can find the contact details of the notary among your husband's records, or his attorney, and see if there are copies on file there. Sorry for the stress of this, it's hateful not being able to find important documents.
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My husband completed a power of attorney and had it notarized several years ago giving me his poa if needed. He told me it was with his papers, but he's now had a stroke and is not able to communicate and I'm not yet able to find the poa in his papers. Since I may need it to make some financial decisions with regard to his health insurance and medical care, what should be done in this situation?
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You need to look at it the other way round: what are the rights of the person being cared for? It's the husband who has a right to see his brother and sister, it's he who needs support and assistance to be able to do that.

You say there has never been an issue in the past. But the DPOA wife - wife? - must have *some* reason for what she's doing. You really have no idea what it might be? Note: I don't mean justification, I don't mean she's right to do this; but there must be some motive behind it, whether or not it makes any sense.

Also, has long has this situation been going on? You describe the brother's current condition, but then say that the DPOA will not allow any visits, updates or contact at all - so how do you know what state he is in?

If this is a recent flare-up, if you and your brother have fallen out with your SIL over something, I hope it'll be quickly resolved so that you can all get back to normal.

If it's more serious than that, then you can take legal advice about ensuring that the DPOA does not isolate the person she's caring for or deny him communication with family members.

I hope you're able to make progress. Perhaps you'd like to start a new topic, and let us know how you're getting on?
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If someone appoints a durable power of attorney, and that person is making decisions beyond that POA (determining that their husband cannot have contact with his brother and sister)...he is motorically limited as well as unable to speak...but can understand what is being said. The POA will not allow visitations, updates or any contact whatsoever. There has never been a family issue in the past....not sure of what rights the siblings have??
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If someone has a durable power of attorney when can they legally start making decisions for that person? If said person is competent and the person with the POA starts handling the finances without his consent and signing checks etc. What can be done to that person legally?
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My father is capable of understanding where he is and what he wants to change on his legal papers. My sister is in charge of everything. Can this be changed by my father
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My sister had control of everything and has put him in a memory care unit without me knowing. He wants to change who's in control, can he do that
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My sister has control of everything POA conservator guardianship. My father doesn't want her to be any of these. Can he appt someone else?
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My mother has been givin 2weeks to live due to tumur in her brain... she loseing memory day by day... my aunt tryin to get power of attorney over her... is that possible... she has no will... im wondering who will have more say of her being and decision over her while she still alive..?????
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Archer, do you mean does marrying automatically void any existing DPOA a person might have set up? The honest answer is I don't know, but I can't see why it would.

If your DPOA is already in operation because your loved one, the person who gave it to you, is no longer of sound mind, then that loved one could not either consent to marriage - so it's hard to see how this could have arisen. On the other hand, if the DPOA exists but is not yet in use, the person who created it is free to cancel it at any time.

Would you like to start a new thread - go to Ask A Question on the tool bar - and say a little more about what the problem is?
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Does a marriage supersede a durable power of attorney
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We are trying to get our mother into assisted living. My sister has power of attorney. Mom has been diagnosed with dementia and living on her own. My sister is looking at a place for mom closer to her since she has the POA. mother refuses to sign papers even to get on a waiting list. Can the POA sign them or does she have to have guardianship to do that?
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If a durable power of attorney has not been notarized can it be torn up and not be in force at that time? Also can three daughters be listed as power of attorney?
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Loralee what matters is whether your mother can understand what she is agreeing to, not whether she can physically speak or hold a pen.

What decisions need to be made for her that she is not able to make for herself? I'm wondering why you are anxious to get POA at this very difficult time - what do you need to do for your mother?
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Haw can I become poa of my mom if she can't sign anything because of surgery, and she's on a ventilator also so can not speak just can shake her head
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My mom is in the hospital and unable to sign a poa because of surgery is there anyway around her not signing, maybe by saying yes to the notary is that possible
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Can the POA be held responsible for payment of back taxes on the parents property?
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I'm a concerned niece. My aunt died 3 yrs ago, my uncle has been confused.

I live in California, he lives in Las Vegas. I'm in the beginning stages of getting my uncle a diagnosis. I'm so scared.
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Peggyjo, I'm very sorry for your loss.

All Powers of Attorney end on the death of the person for whom they were held. So your stepdaughter's DPOA no longer does anything at all, it's over.

Is there an ongoing problem you're worried about? You might like to post a new question.
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My husband just passed away and his daughter whom I don't get along with had a dpoa before the marriage, would this still be in affect or would it be voided
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