My mother passed away in may of this year and my father has gone so far down hill. he says he has givin up and ready to be with momma! My sister and my brother go over therebbut i cant i live in tyexas. I am very concerned he says he dont eat or shower ir anything else for that matter. he is really sick he has OCPD he only has 25% lung function and yes he smokes and drinks, he has for years! He is drinking awa his pain!!! What do i do??? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!

we are caring for my mother in law. she has the early stages of Alzheimers but will not admit it and does not acknowledge the Dr telling her this. She is a nasty person and no matter how we care for her, she is so negative. But she has always been negative. She won't bathe, wash her hair, change her clothes and nothing we do works. She says we are mistreating her. I am at the end of my rope and my husband is going to a psychiatrist because he is so depressed. What can we do and what should we do? I feel very isolated.