Dear God i pray every day and night for my parents, they are both in a nursing home mom broke her leg and dad had a stroke , i simply couldnt take care of both of them physically or mentally,i tried and i did for quite awhile, till it became to much. I am so worried they will be abused in there, i call and go all the time,now they are telling me i have to make appointments, that bothers me. Dad hates it and doesnt understand at all. And they never call me and let me know anything like changes in meds. The world is just a mean hateful place for old people, they used to be respected and honored now they are just thrown away. Excuse me while i go cry somemore.
My mother, who had dementia developed a stage pressure 4 ulcer ina nursing home which ultimately cost her her life. The nursing home never informed ma about the ulcer. They hardly ever turned her over in the bed, and in the patient records, claimed that my mom was uncooperative. I visited with my mother EVERY day, and when the came inat night to prepare her for bed, I waas escorted out of the room (so that i would not see the ulcer). Also, they never assisted her with meals, taking her food tray away, whether my mother was done or not.
Safer in a nursing home? You have GOT to be kidding!
Getting qualty people as staff is so very important and the expenses never go down. The monitoring is also a states' issue that can easily be veiled to obscurity by adm. Family members play a huge role in monitoring care and remain the single most important factor in sustaining quality care.
I think this article is pretty good. It seems to be accurate and informative. I agree with most things in article. I do believe state of the art should be in all facilities. These people deserve it. But then again everything costs so much......that would be one of the first reasons why it maybe wouldn't happen! Anyone else???? Thoughts?
True. The DON'S, ADON'S and supervisors are not going to come in and check on the residents in the middle of the night. A family has to walk in the door unannounced at all times of the day and night and still its difficult. My father is residing in an assisted living for dementia patients! He is in the hospital now and yesterday, I asked him to open his mouth so I could check if he swallowed his banana and he said "no, you'll spit in it". I cried. My brother is his guardian.......
These so-called safety background checks remind me of random drug screens and fingerprint checks as will be instituted in Minn. It gives a warm and fuzzy feeling to the bureaucracy that created it but I think real abuse frequently goes undetected by family members.
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Is Your Parent Safe in the Nursing Home?
My mother, who had dementia developed a stage pressure 4 ulcer ina nursing home which ultimately cost her her life.
The nursing home never informed ma about the ulcer. They hardly ever turned her over in the bed, and in the patient records, claimed that my mom was uncooperative. I visited with my mother EVERY day, and when the came inat night to prepare her for bed, I waas escorted out of the room (so that i would not see the ulcer). Also, they never assisted her with meals, taking her food tray away, whether my mother was done or not.
Safer in a nursing home? You have GOT to be kidding!