As Cindy says, some men respond. Others do not. Once you've provided all the education you can with reading material and TV specials (don't overlook these -- both PBS and the networks have run them), try having him go with you to a support group (to back you up; not because he needs support: he'll never admit it). Try to find one that includes men. Or if you're already in one, try to have some of the other women bring their husbands or significant others so he will feel more comfortable. Some people are terrified that the more they know about dementia the more likely they are to get it. This can't happen. But there's no arguing with an irrational fear -- that's what makes it irrational. If he won't learn and he won't support you, you just have to accept it. That will free you to find help elsewhere. Defining the problem is only half the solution. Don't give up until you find the support you need. This is going to be a long process. You are the one who needs to reach the end of it with strength to have another life.
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How can I get my spouse to be more understanding of mom's Alzheimer's?
Some people are terrified that the more they know about dementia the more likely they are to get it. This can't happen. But there's no arguing with an irrational fear -- that's what makes it irrational.
If he won't learn and he won't support you, you just have to accept it. That will free you to find help elsewhere.
Defining the problem is only half the solution. Don't give up until you find the support you need. This is going to be a long process. You are the one who needs to reach the end of it with strength to have another life.