Veterans Pension Helps Pay for Long-Term Care and Home Care


My father is a vet who lives with me. A VA nurse comes to our home for blood draws and medication management. She suggested that I get Aid and Attendance. My father needs assistance 24/7, so I stay at home with him. She asked someone at the VA office in our town to call me. When that person called, she asked if I wanted to bill my father for living here. I was so embarrassed that I just said no. My husband suggested that I ask more questions or speak to someone else. We're getting into a financial bind because of the situation. The nurse had made it sound like there was paperwork involved, but the payment was a standard amount. The idea of billing my father really got to me. How does anyone get past the awkwardness of writing a bill for a loved one?

Yes, you are however, it will be based on medical need, and asset/ income nuances. These are not clearly explained by the VA. You may message me if you are in Georgia.

My husband died while on active duty, no DD214, because his death certi, is his last military form so I was told. he served in the war of Vietnam, am I entitled to aid and attendance

was your dad disabled? I have been told the only way my dad can get aid and attendance is for him to have been 100% disabled from a service related injury. This is info from the VA. He has been the sole caretaker for my 90 year old mom and his health has suffered due to not being able to leave her.

That is what happened to my Dad. Spent weeks in rehab in a local hospital waiting for a bed at the VA. Finally walked over to the VA hospital where the bed was and no one had arranged for transportation or told the hospital that the bed was available. So check the hospital yourself, don't believe what they are talking to each other - follow the paperwork path yourself.

My brother is my Dad's caregiver and he never had a problem accepting the POA at the VA. In fact, I am named as secondary POA, and the VA have come to me for signatures when my brother was not around. I don't understand why you were told that! There is something called a Fiduciary that the VA itself will investigate and establish if you were to accept your Dad's pension to manage for him if he can not handle banking himself. Please try a different source at the VA, see if you can find an advocate maybe at your local Council on Aging or something? We found that we get different answers depending on who you talk to, and it is very difficult to talk to anyone. We were calling all around trying to find out why my Dad wasn't be transferred to the VA, and when we went to the actual VA hospital where the bed was, we found out they had been holding a bed for him, but no one had told the hospital and no one had arranged for his transfer! Got to talk to different people and keep notes.
It is worth it!

If he can physically get in a car (to go to a dr) then he is not meeting the VA description of homebound. But! Homebound is NOT a requirement for Aid and Attendance. Homebound is another level of care that provides another level of dollar assistance. Everyone I talk to seems to have a different opinion, the proof is when you see the money unfortunately. This was from a very credible source and I have seen it more than once from more than one source.

He has medicare and VA benefits. His social security will continue correct. Once he is here would he be able to get help for care if able to live alone with home care.

My neighbor was in the military for 10 years and retired because he got injured. His wife was getting $2500 a month to care for him, even though she worked outside the home and he went hunting and fishing all the time. When their case was reviewed by the VA a few months ago, their stipend was cancelled. He got a job within two weeks. I just wonder how many more veterans are getting this free money when they obviously don't meet the criteria.


Unfortunately Molly unless it's transport to a Medical Facility for care he cannot get in his state of Connecticut, Medicare won't pay for transport to another state. Most insurance companies won't pay either. And if he is on state Medicaid in Connecticut, it stops at the state border and he has to requalify in Florida.