APS , Elder attorneys the Police and social workers do not care

As you can see from all these comments there is a lot of exploitation & elder abuse going on.

The police don’t want to get involved saying it’s a “civil matter” and APS doesn’t do anything if the senior says everything is fine.

Most seniors with dementia don’t realize they’re being exploited or won’t speak up because it’s a trusted family member who they don’t want to get in trouble.

Doctors need to acknowledge in their reports when seniors are no longer capable of signing legal documents

Hello,
My father died in 2019 and had a caregiver that seems to have manipulated my mother into employing him (making her dependent on his help as he creating this position for himself as her 'personal assistant". He was supposed to leave and go back to his agency to get another client caregive.My mother has estranged me. I am her only child and we always got along until this man caregiver came into the picture. She is very defensive when we show concern that she is being influenced. This caregiver also took posession of all my fathers personal files from my fathers closets. How do i get this person out of my life and get my mother back. Thank you

In RI APS does nothing if the elderly won’t speak out against the abuser. All they do is check to see if the elder is safe.....they don’t care about financial exploitation or if the elder has dementia.

However, once I told them my mom could not leave the house on her own in an emergency & they saw that to be true they told my brother that she needed 24/7 care if she was to remain in her home.

Senior abuse is taking place constantly even in seniors' residence where there is independently living. Unfortunately, this is subtle and cannot be proven unless the senior comes forward. And when interviewed, seniors do not want to complain or come forward for fear of retribution. So, the question is how do you help seniors who are abused psychologically and by people in power?

Hi, I have a dilemma about caring of our mother. I hope I can get answers from this forum I am asking your advice. In my opinion, the goal of looking after is not just routine caring but also recovery with careful and designed program from illness. Our mother is also elderly. This is the situation. Due to me being the youngest, my opinion or me making decision is not important. The primary caregiver is my sister. Although sister provides for mom everything, in my opinion, there are deficiencies, no alternatives, or no options are being discussed to mom's comfort and even possible recovery. There are 2 older siblings who it is claimed they support the primary care giver in caregiving. Here is my observation so far. 2yrs ago, mother moved with the p caregiver sister and the other 2siblings being around for caregiving. This description what siblings are doing seems for outsiders, the caregiving of my mom seemed to have quality and she has her children around her to take care of her. But my observation is, there seemed to be limited knowledge in the way to make sure mom must not give up hope to recover from stroke as well as her psychological well being. It is required to meet her needs and if possible try different options for her recovery. Besides the basic caring, I don't see them discussing, nor talking about it. The caregving is routine. Everytime I observe and suggest solution, the p caregiver sister does it. This worries me because this means there is no solution from her how to make sure mom keeps her hope up and psychological well being continues. I worry she would eventually give up and do not want to be a burden on us. I can also see the p caregiver is burning out. The brother siblings claiming to also support the p caregiver by looking after, basically does thing only when told. He is always home but does nothing until told for caregiving. The other siblings sister comes 3 times or so a week to do the caregiving. The p caregiver today me this way is better. As a daughter I have been doing the following: I have caregiven my mother, designed program and organized for health care: discussed and decisions and solutions I gave during mom's relapse lead to stabilization. Continuing t suggest alternatives has lead to sustainable stabilization. However, the preference sister continue to do the caegiving with siblings is done but based on the reasons I mentioned above, solutions or alternatives or activities to continue her alertness is not taking place. In other words, it is basically like other hired caregiver would do it is being done not as patient also that require continuous effort to find solutions to her possible recovery. In addition, mom is not getting the full benefit she is getting from the state with housing instead of tiny 1bedroom with 4 people cramming in it. My mom loves people but she is very limited on people visiting her because siblings are too tired to welcome visitors, I am also in the dark about the money coming in from state that pays for her as well as for caregiving. Is it also allowed to separate me and my father away from her as she needs the contributions from us? How does the p caregiver sister know she is meeting my mother's needs besides the basic caregiving? Everytime I go to visit my mother, I see tears in her eyes. As mom is playful person, Everytime my mom interacts with me, my mother quickly looks towards the direction of p cargiver sister who makes sure she sits directly in front of her to gaze at her.

What do you think? I need your feedback. Thank you.

I'm so worried about my 80-year-old mother. I've learned that my niece is begging my mother for money every day. My niece uses countless excuses about why she needs it, often claiming that the kids are hungry. My mother, who has mental illness and could be suffering from early dementia, gives it to her. She's an enabler who has a difficult time saying no. I don't know how much my niece has gotten from her, but I'm worried that she's manipulating my mother who's on a fixed income.

My niece recently had a drastic life change when her husband left her and their two kids without a dime. She got fired from a job she'd held for many years, and is living with a man she barely knows. This man doesn't work and owes back child support--there may be a warrant out for him. He's also a recovering addict. So whether this money she's getting from my mother is to cover necessary living expenses or to pay for this man's addiction is unknown. It seems strange that she goes to my mother's every day and begs for more money.

The problem with reporting this is that my mother would likely deny it and nothing would come of it. Any suggestions?

This is happening RIGHT NOW in my family. The oldest sibling has skewed the will in her favor. I've been reading the will and it doesn't read like Mom's voice but the eldest sister with ALL control going to her. It's so obvious to me but nobody else is getting the big picture of what's going on. I'm the lowest ranking (omega) male in the family and a fractured family will leave me alone out in the world. There is nothing I can do to stop it because it would require tons of money. My only recourse is to defy my sister at every possible turn. Everybody, including my dying Mother now know that my sister and I are bitter enemies and the reason is over the will and estate and the immorality of reducing the family to merely a collection of possessions and money. It's the only thing I can do since nobody else is understanding the magnitude of the problem. Then, years from now, when everybody finally "gets it" because all the money is gone and the realization that a crime had been committed - I can't be blamed. It's all I can do. It makes me feel sad and I fear my future.

I just acquired guardianship of my parents. I had a family member who has been "picking" and taking valuables for sometime. I did call elderly abuse hotline and was told that this is a type of elderly abuse. I was informed to call the law now that I have some control of my parents property and possessions if this happens again. I just hope that it stops. We will see.

My uncle stole thousands of dollars after he tricked my grandfather into signing a POA. He then placed him in a Veteran's Nursing Home 45 minutes away from his house,stole all his belongings in his home and sold it. He is a police officer(not a very good one) and his wife is a CPA.

Our situation must be unique, my family (7 adult children) don't get along. My father passed away March 2016, my mother has dementia. Eight days after my fathers funeral an older brother with an ex parte court decision named himself conservator and guardian and my mother a ward of the state. He then proceeded to place his name on several bank accounts, being a convicted embezzler the other family members had him removed and the case moved to Omaha. An Omaha judge named a bank as conservator, the bank filed a false farm report, then based on this report attempted to take over another million worth of assets, ignoring the four million in cash assets and the farm that they were in charge of conserving. The bank didn't purchase insurance and one month later a tornado did about $170,000.00 in damage. Meanwhile the bank hired a predatory attorney who continually harassed the family with accusatory e-mails, 20 page reports that slandered the family members. Etc. Etc., the county judge ordered the bank to access the tornado damage, the bank ignored the court orders. The family asked the judge to remove the bank in favor of another bank, instead we got another 90 days of misery. There is not nearly enough space to state all of the crimes committed against my mother, a protected person and her adult children. A frivolous lawsuit was filed against the family asking the court for $80,000 in attorney fees. We finally got them removed after seven months and the bank charges and attorney fees are $250,000.00, my attorney fees are over $100,000.00 two years later we are still in court. Having 6 1/2 million place a huge target on my mother from a predatory bank. Nebraska has no punative damage allowed, what can we do?

My started 3 years ago when he begged our debit card and pin from his mom. By the time I found they had cut off the power. The bank aided him in this theft.
After bail him out numerous times and paying for his rehab. He broke parole and got 5 years. I though my troubles were over. He needed money in his account at jail, I put $100., 3 days my wife was called by his gfriend and told to send him some money, she asked me to do it and I said NO. She get $900. a month and has sent him $300, in 7 days. his gfriend and him called up and said he could get out for $250 that nite if we put in the money , it was a scam. he was trying to hussle his Moom from jail. I have a Durable POA, I do want her to have her $900.00 but not him. If she wants to give it all to him it ok to me.I will not lift one finger to help him. I went to the jail and asked if they could help and they said no. I asked if they would let a convic commit elder abuse from jail and they said they would not restrict his phone calls. Each one cost $15.00 so she will be out of money soon.

Im having same problem with a realative draining his bank account and living high while my uncle was starving cause ge gad to way to get to grocery store and no phone. And he has Dementia and the same person got him to sign over his land and home to him. Yhe land has bern in my family ftom my great grandpa farmed it them gramdpa then my daddy. He gave us kids nours before he died now part of it is with a stramger. My hands are tied my uncle made me his power of attorney nine yrs ago but never knew what happened. In 2011 till he had left my uncle to die not feeding him no way to go or ph. If not for a suspicious neighbor that checked on him when the man never showed ip for werks annd couldnt get my uncle to answer door i told him to call 911. He was skin and bones they bypassed all the small town hospitals and hot him to the biggest hospital in Texas. He made it through but memory was gone no telling how long he went without food. He lives in country away from close neighbors like the city. This person got on his bank account and got him a card and a couple days after the SS check hit bank he drew it all out but yet no one will attemp to help get his land back or make the guy pay his money back or spend life in prison.

I am non family member of a client with MS (single parent)..just found out her only son has been using her credit card to order thousands of dollars thru Amazon without her knowledge. She is afraid to confront him as he is very much a verbal abuser to her,and s he is afraid he will not "love" her if she stands up to him...this has apparently be ongoing for years. She has always trusted him and never analyses her bills...every day we find more ways she is "paying for him" he is 26 yrs old and a alcoholic....what can she do...she will not call the law on him or report him?

I am and have been in a very difficult situation for some time now and it's driving me crazy. My grandads son has lost his bungalow he and my ban worked for all their lives then lost his own house by spending every single penny on. He remain's spending 1000pound a month ofor my grandads money and driving his disability car. Whilst my grandad is just existing at my brother home which is causing famile issues as he is letting this happen. I'm at a loss thetell must be something the law can do with this bastard

I just found out my Uncles financial adviser advised him to loan her son 50,000. My uncle passed away last year. The financial adviser forgot to pay the taxes on that money so there is a tax lein on his property with interest and penalties for 2013 otherwise I never would of know. My uncle was not a rich man he trusted this woman. There is no contract that I can find. I do have copies of the checks he wrote to her sons company. The son will not return my calls. I am at a loss of what to do. The loan was suppose to be paid with 10% interest after 5 years which would be due next year. But with no copy of a contract what do I do.

Our sister has been abusing our mother for decades. I reported abuse to law enforcement, the state and later we found out a visiting nurse filed an abuse complaint on our sister. All fell on deaf ears and last Tuesday our sister took our mothers life with morphine.
We know foul play was involved and our sister forged our mother's signature to end her life. And for what? Money.
What a shame mom had to pay the ultimate price while her murderer walks free.

The unfortunate fact is that there is plenty of advice out there from government and non government agencies but nothing concrete to help prosecute these predators who prey on the elderly and vulnerable.No free legal aid for them. ---as a police officer said to me " we have a legal system in place,not always a justice system"
In the case i have been involved with,karma has played its part and the legal system will ( hopefully) dole out punishment.In most cases this does not happen and society still thinks these predators are " lovely,caring people".
If anyone knows a case of elderly abuse,keep pushing pollies,police,whoever to get help.Sometimes it works but it's hard going.

I let my daughter borrow my retirement of 19700.00 She was going to paid it back in 5 years. I did not make a note for it because I believe & trusted in her. 5 years is up 3 years ago. I have a lawyer that has been working 3 years. It has mental messed me up. I cry all the time. I am crying right now as I write this.Drive my husband nuts because I just keep repeating everything There ot a day that goes by that I don't think about this..I do not want to go to a nursing home. That money was to suppose to get me a new car& a new bathroom. I was driving 2001 car.And live in my house till I die.
I am 73 & my husband is 83.
And I told them that. I kelp asking them to sign a note. They would tell me we got you cover. The were supposed to sell the house in Dallas. They would pay what they got. In 2013 I stopped by their house & asked again for a note. I thought they were going to cover over & do something to me. I ran out & got in the car & haven't spoke to them since. We live about 6miles apart. Oh their house was brand new & I live in a 1973 house. The lawyer says I probably want get anything. When they asked to borrow I wish I knew the were stealing. There so many things that are going wrong with the house & we just have let fall apart. I just don't know what to do. I feel like just killing myself. I have not body to help. No family. My husband has plenty of family
Thank you for listenting to me.

I don't steal from my mother I being taking care of her for 15 yrs, I do,n't go anywhere, my sister is always picking on me for some reason.

My sister lives in texas she only comes for a few days and know shes accusing me of stealing from my mother, when im the only one that takes care of her 24/7/, she has a wonderful life and I don't have anything don't even have any kind of income. How should I go with this type of accusations

I have a sibling that always borrowed money from my parents, and has taken advantage of other family members. My stepmom ended up in the hospitl, while in there the sibling, his wife and a step aunt, all went through their stuff, the wife told me she took the step mom's bank card and pin number, the changed the locks on the doors. They were getting money from my parents, I took them to court, proved they were taking money, they had convinced my step mom I was the doing what they were doing. The judge belived them instead of the proof we had and granted him conservator, he has gone through money that the court seems to turn their heads to, my dad tried to defend me and is now dead, while laying in the hospital my brother never came to see him, or even came to his funeral. He used their money to fight me, I used my own money and am now broke, I need some way to have someone to investigate the money he has spent and to investigate if he quit giving my dad his medicine to kill him off. The judge has taken my parents from me and my family. This sipbling hasn't even been around for the last twenty years, only to get money and he is on disability, and said in court he worked under the table.

I NEED HELP WITH PROTECTING AN ELDER IN MY FAMILY. I HAD POWER OF ATTORNEY FOR 12 YEARS AND HAD BEEN HANDLING HER AFFAIRS, THEN ALL OF A SUDDEN HER GRANDCHILDREN WENT BEHIND MY BACK AND GOT CONSERVATORSHIP TO COVER THEIR TRACKS WITHOUT MY KNOWLEDGE. NO I AM NOT ALLOWED TO VISIT WITH HER AND SEE THAT SHE IS ALRIGHT. SHE HAS BEEN NOT FEED, SHE HAD A STROKE AND JUST RECENTLY I'VE NOTICE THAT THEY HAVE RUN THROUGH HER MONEY WHICH WAS SUPPOSED TO USE FOR HER REHAB. I NEED HELP. BOTH OF THESE RELATIVES ARE FELONS AND ONE WAS JUST RECENTLY RELEASED FROM PRISON FOR MURDER. SHE HAD ASKED ME NOT TO LET THEM GET THERE HANDS ON HER. BUT SOME JUDGE WITHOUT HAVING ALL OF THE INFORMATION AND OR THE REASON WHY SHE DIDN'T PUT THEM IN CHARGE OF HER AFFAIRS GRANTED THEM THE POWER TO ABUSE HER. I NEED HELP BEFORE THEY KILL HER. I HAVE NO DESIRE TO BE ANONYMOUS. I NEED HELP. IF SOMEONE COULD REACH OUT AND HEAR ME AND HELP ME, GOD WILL BLESS YOU. I GAVE HER MY PROMISE TO NOT LET THIS HAPPEN AND I'D LIKE TO KEEP MY WORD. MY NAME IS ANNJEA

About 4 years ago our father passed away so when he passed our sister when into the bank with our mum and got her name add to the accounts so if and when our mother passed our mothers accounts would not be frozen about 2 years ago we found out that our sister had been using the accounts to buy stuff for herself not a large amount our mother did wanted to press charges.that sister moved over sea but now is coming back and our brother is trying to couses trouble and looking at getti g a lawyer to have her charged if she comes back and is butting out a warrant for her arrest. It is up setting our mother I have rang the bank and they said because the accounts were in her name as well our sister could take the money as she is an account holder and our mother has told him to back off what can he do its not his money is this right or can he do it. Or is our mother right to say back off I have even offered to pay the money back to our mother but she says no. Hope you can help me

My best advice is to petition the court with jurisdiction over your loved one for a gaurdian at lidum to over see the situation. The G.A.L. will then be the one responsible for determining what is best for your loved one. They do their research into each situation and interview the family that is involved with caring for that person& evaluating each case on a personal level. Secondly, I suggest looking into meeting with a local benefits specialist who will sit down with you and explain what benefits & resources are available to you & in what capacity. As well as helping to set up the desired changes & establish lines of communication between your family and the new agencies ( home health care, assisted living, etc. ) if applicable & ensure a smooth transition.
Best of luck

That article is full of all the things I have been told to do,have done and 3 months later the police have not been to see the guilty couple.I have supplied 32 pages of bank statements showing abuse of power of attorney amounting to $ 50,000 and a deposit of $286,000 into the couples account.The money is from my friends insurance payout when her house burnt down.She was in hospital at the time ( suspicious??) and not expected to live.In a nursing home now,her health is failing,aggravated by worry,the system is powerless to help.This is robbery,nothing less but it's easier to wait for the victim to die than to prosecute.No money for lawyers( they have it all) and no mental impairment = no help,lots of advice.I have written to 9 politicians,words are cheap but let's see.

I agree now everything is elder abuse

My Mother died in 2004 , my Father with Dementia gave power of attorney to a friend Lawyer who then died. His son took over and from then has taken advantage of my fathers condition.
My father has a holiday home in Spain , the Lawyer had it rented out unknown to us ,and when we asked to go on holiday we arrived at the house to find all the furniture had been removed,we had to go a rent an accommodation. This is a small piece of evidence of the practice from the Lawyer
We need help.
2 Lawyers that we commissioned have gave up and been costly.
Can someone help ?

I happen to be Related to some of the Worst People I have ever met in my Entire Life. A sister who Lied to, Manipulted, Tricked, Deceived my Elderly Parents to the point that my (ex) Mom dis-owned her Childeren just so She would end up with All the assigned Inherentices. I know for a Fact she did this because I Left Tape recorders in My Folks House ( with my Father's Permission) and she still denies it.

My aunt and uncle recently moved my 86 year old grandmother and grandfather into their home and through power of attorney ended the lease on my grandmother's apartment. The apt rent was $895 in a nice facility and neighborhood. They are now taking $2,000 per month of my gparents $2900 total retirement as rent... They have them living in one single room of their house that serves as their bedroom and living room and the bathroom that is the household bathroom is right next door so it's not even private space. My grandmother raised me and she is unhappy and feels like she was railroaded and tricked into this situation. $2,000 per Month is enough to afford a luxury home in a great neighborhood.. My aunt is currently in a very large amount of debt (information gained from my aunt herself less than one year ago) . how can i help my grandmother? She is miaerable.