Good to see your thinking.

long distance curtailing as an option. I wish!!!! Your parent will have a poor quality of life if you're not there pretty much every day -- although your own quaity of life as a caretaker will cetrainly be simpler..Some facilities wouldn't even take your parent.A state or an appointed attorney or local guardian is typically required for parent to be admitted to any assisted living facility so most want somebody close they can call for every major or minor crisis.. I had to move to Florida so my mother can live in the one she liked. They may be called assisted living, but its the childten who do the assisting. My mother has some sort of cognitive disorder so I'm the one who makes sure she has money every week for manicures and small purchases and change her hearing aid batteries as she has arthritis and findind a med tech who can change batteries is like finding gold.I;m the one who makes sure she sees doctors and am there to ask questions. . i;m the one who takes her on field trips so she can maintain some sort of independence. And if I didn't see my mother on an evey other day bassi she would have died from any of the many dieases like inner ar infections of urinary tract infections -simply because the primary syptoms at her age for those diseses are ":confusion,' .I am the one and only person who knows when when my mother is acting stangely.( Staff at assisted living basically asuume everybody there is confused and the head nurse was not even aware elderly women do not spike fever or have burning sensations when they have a urniary tract infection.) And by the way my mother lives in very chic, very highly reccomended Florida assisted facility. As to email- huh??? One of the bigget problems for anyone older than 85 is that they missed a whole generation of technology which led to a lot of isolation-- all as a result of the time at which they left the work force.. And even tablets don't work for them bcause we use theirr wrists more than our fingers as we age. (Apple pulled back their marketing of tablets as gifts for older parents for just this reason. )
My advice would be to find somebody in town who REALLY knows your parent and have them drop by at least there times a week -especially if your parent uses hearing aids..