Sorry, I am continuing. When my father-in-law got on the appropriate medication, he responded with being much more pleasant and a joy to be around. Some people just don't recognize their own behavior as being disturbing.

Sounds to me you might want to take him to the doctor and discuss his challenges that you are observing. I think men have a tendency to deny they have a problem, I know my father-in-law did. Finally, my mother-in-law and the daughters had to go to the doctor and tell him how he acted at home. He fooled the doctor until his family went and spilled the beans on how he really was.

Well, I'll start with the easiest. How about new glasses? Could he possibly have cataracts that require only outpatient surgery?

Yes, sounds like you do need a caregiver before your business starts to sink. We've used Home Instead - but there are plenty of others. It took 2-3 trys to find the exact right person, but we finally did.

So, anyone out there caring for a deaf elder with dementia? Dad has been deaf for over 50 years. He used to real lips rather well and was a pretty good signer. dementia and deteriorating eyesight has impacted both thus, explaining and re-explaining the day's activities and what's going on around him is exhausting. In fairness, dad is lovely and tries so hard-but it's really frustrating. He lives in our guest house and we have no other care for him. The fact that he is becoming less and less active-he hardly walks any more makes the situation even tougher. He is really resistant to anyone coming in as a companion or helper. Even if he did, where does one find a suitable person who can accomodate with sensitivity with all his issues? I fear the need is getting greater. I am an independant contractor but can hardly work because I don't like to leave him alone so much. Any ideas?