I have many thoughts with an ongoing issue of my Mother in law. Her eldest daughter is caring for her and the Mom is thriving. 3 adult siblings who are nurses have decided after 8 years of non involvement to decide her daily actions and have went so far as to contact elder abuse who deemed their claims non worthy and the police who came and spoke with the Mom who said she enjoys where she is staying and wants them to stop harassing her and her oldest daughter. 2 live out of state and now they don't want her to leave the care of her at their sisters. They are jealous because her adopted daughters are closer to her than her natural grand children. They are making her have physical duress about her daily activities and she wants them to stop as she will decide who she sees and when. It is becoming alarming with 3 supposedly educated women creating unnecessary actions with an attorney over a grown woman's right to live peacefully.
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It is very hard to watch what is going on with your parent when it is long distance and "you think" that the people who are living close to your parent would never abuse them in any way,money,physical abuse or neglect. Don't let the police off the hook to easy eather. If you send them to do a welfare check and they say well your sister or brother said you are the one causing problems, you start calling and calling, the police, the sheriff of that county,the DA office, elder abuse hotlines, flood them with phones calls. Call their dr and just tell them what you know is going on. Have a welfare check done every few days, my brother started to move my mom around so we couldn't find her. Get a neighbor who may live next to the ones who are watching your parent if possible and have them keep an eye on what they are doing.Some times you can find out more by the neighbors watching the caregivers then sending the police over. Don't ever stop trying to do what is right no matter what or who. You can never bring back your parent after they are gone. You expect your parents at some point to not be there, but it is the way their life ended and the last few years they had,what was it like for them. It is heart breaking when you find out and it's too late to do anything that they were abused in everyway by their own flesh and blood.
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