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The Stages of Alzheimer’s Disease

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PennyThaGr8, your mother has dementia, right? You may never get her to understand your needs. She doesn't even understand things that she used to know well. This is all new territory. She's never needed a caregiver before!

The thing is, your mother doesn't need to "understand" this for you to take action. You need some time to yourself. Just do it. Don't wait for a person with dementia to understand something -- at any stage.

How do I get my Mother to understand that I need a break. I am tired, she wants me right with her, all the time. 24/7 I don't want to feel like a awful person. I just feel like I need to get away. And can anyone tell me why My Mother thinks that she has all the money in the world. And continues to call me a liar. About her money. I tell her that I give her $100 in cash a month. I even show it to her, and she says I just put it there. To make her look bad. WTH

It is hard to manage a person (spouse) with Alzheimer that is always been abusive and controlling , I have stopped being ashamed , reaching out for help has been the right thing to do, do not suffer in along, I am going to enjoy my life I have not grand children but I do have a grand dog , get love where you can..caregivers need love too..

“I knew an aged man (a friend’s father) who had Alzheimer’s disease. During the advanced stages, I noticed that the senior started to shadow his caregiver and followed him everywhere. At first, I couldn’t understand what was happening, but then I read up on cognitive decline and its severity. Thanks for sharing this article, Carol. It’s really helpful!”

As if it could not get worse my husband is maybe stage 6.Now I am told he has
severe aortia stenosis. The heart doctors say there is nothing they can do for him. I have an appointment with his primary dr. tomorrow to get started with hospice.I have lots of questions ...I really need help! we have been married for 59 years.

Up until the last few days, dad has been pretty even tempered. Always knows me and this past Monday his former secretary went to the NH to see him. He knew her! He never asked how she was, etc. Once he said hello, he said no more. Today I went to see him. He was visibly agitated. Actually hollered at me. I had a nurse ask him a question and he wasn't really pleasant to him either. I know he's in end stage, so changes are to be expected. I did learn that they believe he has Sundowners and appears fearful, so they sit with him to try and reassure him. I also discovered that the doctor has decreased his medication at night. He has to be tapered down. Wondering if it's the Dementia or medication that is causing the agitation. Anyone else experience this at end stage? His appetite is also diminishing. Just wondering what to expect.

If and when I can others, it always helps me!

I have so much to learn and feel ashamed I did't step forward sooner to help. I had always been told I had more work at home that needed to come before others. I was needed at home. It hurts when a simple smile to those people meant so very much to their tomorrows.

I found this article very informative, thank you.

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My husband is stage 5. I just heard that Pat Summitt past away from AD. I had no idea that you could die from AD.