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A Journey of Hope After Loss

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Bringing this back to the top for those grieving the loss of a loved one. Recommend "15 Things I Wish I'd Known About Grief" by TerynObrien.

This is a helpful place. I doubt my problem can be easily solved, if ever. I cared for my husband through a year of terminal cancer. We had been running a very successful business. He had to be my priority. The business ceased. I became his full time everything, nurse, mother etc. After he died, I had to sort out the mess. We owned several homes, they were all in mortgage default and had to go. At the end, I was left with my furniture. That's it. I believe I have never physically recovered. Ten years have passed. Many health problems including a heart attack. I now have a modest home with no mortgage which is great. My issue now is, my energy has never returned. I am susceptible to whatever illness is going around. Still not able to fully function due to lack of energy. I am taking special care of myself now. I want to see improvement. I have tried pushing myself to do things. It just causes extreme fatigue. I don't expect anyone to have the answer. I am 65 now.

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its quite true,yes these are somebody""s shoes but we can imagine the effects from simple visualisation...

The city I live in has bereavement classes at the local mortuary. You may want to check around for something like that with the mortuaries or churches. Good luck to you!!!

We are living in Central Florida, Lake Co. My husband is bringing mom to live with us, but she needs a retreat type place to help her with her grief at the loss of her husband last June. Can anyone recommend a retreat/recovery place that can help her with this grief?

My love,of 37 years,[March/2/2011,was our anniversary].Died,4/10/2011.I was by his side,telling him my love for him ,reassuring him,that he was so much loved by our 5,children.he had,that horrible disease.Parkinson.I was lucky enough,to be at his side to catch his last breath.Ineed him so very much.He was not only my love,but friend,lover and so much more.To had being his caregiver for these past years,was an honor.I have a great family,of course they tell me time will have to pass,so for now all ,I want is to be alone,dont get me wrong,but i want to cry,shout,it feels so ,YOU ALL UNDERSTAND.MyMOM passed less then 4 months ago,iwas her caregiver also.MOMhad dimentia.THANKS,FOR PUTTING WITH ME.Sorry,for all your losses.GOD BLESS YOU ALL.

Hi everyone!!! I haven't been on for a very long time. Even after a year and a half, I too, am still having difficulties dealing with guilt. I know that I did my very best, but even still, I feel that things were unfinished with my Dad.

I just recently joined this site, due to being my Mother's caregiver. Last May my Dad passed away at the age of 83. My Mom was sick with ALzheimers and lung issues. At one point they were both sick but in different hospitals.When my dad passed away, I had to take care of mom and never really got to grieve for my Dad. On March 18th, my Mom went very peacefully to heaven and I feel as if I lost them both at the same time. I kept mom in her home right till the end. I kissed her goodnight and told her I loved her and she said"Love you too." She passed in her sleep before morning. I am feeling so guilty for the mean things I said to mom when I was so nervous and frustrated. I try to tell myself I did the best I could for her but I am having a hard time dealing with it.

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I lost my mother on December 28, 2007. My sister and I were both at her bedside when she peacefully crossed over. She had Alzheimer's so we "lost" her long before we lost her physical presence. I feel blessed to have been able to spend those last hours with her ... caressing her ... telling her how much I loved her ... telling her what a great mom she had been to me. She laid in her bed, with her glazed eyes focused upward, and "talked" to all her long, lost relatives that had gone on before her. Our Hospice nurse was wonderful, too. And the follow up we received from Hospice was great as well.