Q: I can’t deal with my mother’s abusive behavior and angry outbursts. She has Alzheimer’s but it doesn’t make it any easier for me to cope. What can I do?
A: Research in your area to see what resources are available to help you in your current situation. If you know that you are no longer able to deal with her behavior alone -- which is not uncommon for caregivers -- then look for alternative placement for your mother.
Adult care as well as respite opportunities will let you take some time away from caregiving to re-group and make time for the things you enjoy.
You may also want to talk to your mother's doctor about her abusive behavior and angry outbursts from a medication perspective. Does your mom have any psychological issues from her past that may be causing her behavior?
Also, educate yourself on ways to interact with your mom. For example, see AgingCare.com's article: "Dealing with Mood and Behavior Changes in Elderly Alzheimer's Patients."