hapfra

thank you she has been sick for a long time. broke jaw, bad back has had several surgries, continience, arthritis, addicted to pain meds.will not eat right, addicted to laxatives.

Thank you for your help. My sister and I each have POA for our Mom. One issue is that I think my Mom should have a say on where she would like to live. My sister thinks my Mom is incapable of making decisions. I disagree. This has been a huge stumbling block. My Mom is being released next week from rehab and must choose home or long term care. At home, she will have full time care-givers. My Mom chose home. My sister thinks that's because my Mom is not thinking correctly. My sister wants her to be in a residential facility. We need to come to an agreement soon.

Thank you for your help.

Hi, how are you doing?

Thank you for responding

You stand tall, hapfra. I agree with your philosophy that elders' opinions should and do matter.

Yep, I find that just trading stories with people who have been, or are going through similar stuff is the best medicine for me, even better than the 'Professionals' who haven't actually experienced what we go through.

Thanks, Hap. I do have a little help now and then. I hire a cna to come in for mom's baths so I don't have to deal with that, and a couple of months ago, mom had another somewhat serious TIA which brought Home Health care back for a few weeks, But basically it's on me, and so far I think I'm coping. Eldercare and caregiver support is rare in my rural area, but I do reach out when I think someone might be there.
I have already thought about and set aside the funds for final arrangements. I though it would be best to have that all figured out ahead of time. As far as shifting the focus back to my life, I hope I'll be able to carry on for as long as it might take to get myself on some kind of track.
This has taken alot out of me and the thought of just caring for myself, without even mom's little bit of company, is scary.
I guess I'll just keep plugging through, and I fully intend to take advantage of this website and other support tricks I've learned when it comes time to rebuild my own life.
Thanks again for being there.

Hap, u have no idea how u have touched my life! sometimes I just wont listen to my loved ones period, its takes a total stranger to tell me things, and I listen and internaiize them immeidiately, thanks for being a true friend and those are few and far between, and I dont think I even have one to speak of...........I have strong issues of trust probs, but they are getting better by the day............as everyone is not out hurt Sue! thanks again Hap, and God Bless Ya

Hap, just wanted to let u know that u are in my prayers all the time,and for some reason something told me to write u and tell u that u have not been forgotten, I remember everybody who tries to help me, as that has never been the case before, unless they were getting something in return!!! Just wanted to actually say HI and thats all, have a wonderful day, today I am taking mom to get some glasses that they dont even make that much anymore they are called prisms, she is losing her vision something aweful, I hope this doctor has heart and gives her the prescription, I dont see why NOT!!! she is seeing blurry!! and thats why those are prescribed! hey I just thought of something! maybe I should get a pair too? lol, as my blood pressure medication makes everything blurred too!!! and tired and dizzy!!!! always something!!! and now my husband's diabetes decided it would start to act up as well!!! Just when things seem to calm down a bit some type of crap hits the fan again!!! lol